I am unhappy with my stepdad. I need some help, please.?

Question

GOOD LORD! My stepdad is so awful, I can't believe it. I have a great taste in music, you see. I listen to Queens of the Stone Age, Smashing Pumpkins, Pearl Jam, The Strokes, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Muse, Bad Religion, Sublime etc. My stepdad is a Christian. HE IS OBSESSED WITH HIS RELIGION! He told me to stop listening to my "satan" music. He says it's explicit and is bad for me. I didn't listen, so he got pissed. He took my iPod away from me. He also put this retarted thing that says everything I do on the computer on my pc. On top of this, my family is thinking of moving.

Basically, I've lost my music, internet, and home. I need something fun and captivating to take my mind off of this pain. A hobby perhaps? Please help me find something. I love you all!

Answer 1

Wow sorry. That sounds awful. My dad used to be like that too but fortunately I lived with my mom who was cool. I honestly don't know what to suggest. Best of Luck to you.

Answer 2

i think you should talk to your mom about this chysco dad  

Answer 3

get a really good paying job. buy yourself a new ipod or computer. keep it secret from your step dad. or get a cell with music on it and internet. pay for it yourself and dont let your stepdad find out that you have. its small and u have everything u need.. =] about the hobby the job with be the hobby.

Answer 4

Go to Quang Binh

Love you too.

Answer 5

first off, he's not your father and it sounds like he's trying to really gain authority over you. i don't know what your relationship with your father is like, but I think you should tell him, and tell your mother that you aren't happy with the way your home life is turning. TBH my hobby was reading and music :(  I would try and get out of the house as much as possible. When I was younger I used to walk and ride my bike everywhere and then some. Friends can really be saviors in situations like that.

Answer 6

TALK TO YOUR MOM

IF SHE DOESNT BUDGE THEN YOU SHOULD JUST ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOUR STEPDADS A d**k

IF U HAVE NO PROBLEMS WITH YOUR BIOLOGICAL DAD TALK TO HIM AND MAYBE YOU COULD STAY WITH HIM FOR A WHILE I MEAN MOST DADS WOULD DO ANYTHING TO SHOW THAT THEY ARE BETTER THEN THE STEPDAD

Answer 7

ART! painting or playing music or drawing or writing stories or even cooking is a great way to express yourself, really i think you need to talk to your mom and tell her what you really want to do and tell her your concerns about not being able to do it anymore because of your step dad who shouldn't try to change you and take you for who you are, not force you to be something you are not which can make your life hard or harder, you got to be serious though or it won't help if your whining or sound like you are complaining, tell her you know you should take your step dad how he is and be grateful for being there and help taking care of you two but he shouldn't take away the things that mean so much to you. do NOT say anything like "he isn't my real father he has no right" it can make things worse, yes he isn't your real father everyone knows that but they both expect you to respect him but they should respect you including who you REALLY are

Answer 8

ask him to respect satan..............

because god created satan for the becomings of the sages..

He should respect you.. NO matter what

try to talk to him

Answer 9

sorry about your luck, man.

Religious nut-jobs usually don't budge on their opinions and generally p**s off everyone they run into.

The best thing I can think of is to listen to your music when he is not around and save up your money for when you turn 18.

Answer 10

you poor baby, you've got it so rough. a hobby would be good. the horrible pain you're in. good luck to ya mate

Answer 11

d a n m  

that sucks tell him to stop its not saitan music yell i yell at my parent but ONLY wen the block me out...

umm try painting....maybe sk8ting basketball horseback riding...etc

Answer 12

sorry about the strict christian dad thing. i delt with harsh christian parents too, and i decided to get away from it all, i would learn the piano. here i am four years later, and now i can play entire songs for people. so yea, consider it

Answer 13

Take up boxing and give him a slap for every Q,O,T,S,A SONG EVER. :) CHIN UP LAD YOU WONT BE THERE FOR EVER, Or get a guitar and learn good music behind his back x be the nxt josh

Answer 14

I am really sorry to hear about your step dad.  Christians are seriously warped in the head.  It's really stupid and you can't really do anything about it while he has control of your house hold.  Move out ASAP and get away from him.  He's obsessed and there's no stopping him.

Try photography.  Hopefully your step dad will not think this is a sin too.  It really is a great hobby.

Answer 15

Bide your time until you are 18...until then...craft some voodoo dolls.

Answer 16

first of all if he is watching your internet  he is going to see that you did this. any way. try tv, skate boarding, sports. join a band. learn a instrument. or you can tell your mom. if you cant live with out your music steal back your ipod or use old cds.  

Answer 17

JUST PRAY  GOD HEARS YOU PAIN, AND  WON'T YOU AS HIM NOT TO BE FUNNY BUT WHEN HE WAS YOU WHAT IF HIS PARENTS SAID HE HAD TO BE A JEHOVAH WITNESS OR GET OUT

Answer 18

ummmm become christian...

JK

hmmmmmm lets see you can watch tv!!! i really dont know sry!

Answer 19

act all religus or wat ever around him, and ask how you can "earn" your ipod back... then 4 now get your friends to burn sum cds 4 you (you can burn cds with i tunes make a pla list and with blank CD in drive just right click on playlist and say burn to disk) go buy a cheep cd player, and head phones, and never let NE1 see it, hide it in backpack or sumthing.

talk to your mom, and explain that your ipodis yours and you feel like he dosn't respect you or your stuff by takeing your stuff, and you think it was crule and unfair punnishment

but yeah, just make him think youve become all religous, then just s***w it when hes not around, o 2 friends houses a lot!!!

Answer 20

Wow this guy sounds like a total jerk....does your mom know you're so unhappy? I would talk to her first if u haven't already and because i don't think he has the right to do these things to you. Especially music which can be a great escape from EVIL step parents. I can't say I'm in the same boat as you but focusing on my sports has helped me a lot and retreating to my loving laptop at the end of the day is always calming. Hobbies not so much... is hanging out with friends considered a hobby?

Answer 21

andy roo-shame on you. he is not obsessed with his religion.you are obsessed with satanic things that will lead you in the wrong path.he wants you to have a good life. for goodness sakes-satanic music IS bad for anyone who listens to it. try reading the bible for a hobby or helping around the house or talking to your stepdad. he sounds like he cares about you to me.give the guy a break.you two need to sit down and talk which i do not mean have a whining accusing session.i mean talk. any parent whether you like this or not,has the right and the responsibility to know what their children are doing. and if you werent doing anything wrong on the computer you wouldnt mind him having that on there. straighten out your priorities andy or you will live to regret it.funny that the first thing you said is good lord. yes andy that is correct and it wouldnt hurt to talk to him once in a while.he gave you a good man for a stepfather.i was not so fortunate.

Answer 22

Well for starters how old are you?As ong as you live under his roof you are obligated to respect his wishes as long as he is not being abusive. Can you get your mother to help you with this? After al if she was o.k with you listening in the past perhaps she can come to your aid. Try to show him you are a decent person and try to listen to a more main stream music while he is around, to regain your ipod or whatever you use CD player to listen to your music. It has always been that way when it came to music every generation has had parents tell them that their music comes from Satan...Tell him you will listen to the Christian rock if it will please him. Some of it is pretty good. I remember when Rock started God did i catch it!! and i turned out o.k and  know right from wrong Satan didnt  mislead me to much just because of the music!!Try to show him respect while in his house and enlist your minister or teachers to talk to him .surely he cant  be so opposed to all music?? You will grow up fast enough and be on your own Just remember you will have kids one day and then you can use this to teach them too... Sort of like a curse... I told my daughter she would have kids just like her and she did!!! andsays '' mom the curse worked they are awful!! not really but to her they are.. ha ha i just laugh...

Answer 23

Where is your real father? Your stepfather is your mothers' husband he is no relation to you and has no right to discipline you in anyway even with his narrow minded religious BS. I'd tell him so as well, I did my mothers' husband. I told him your not my father and you have no power. Tell him you'll report him for child abuse. Tell your mother too, and ask her to get your stuff back and tell her husband to go directly to h**l. Thats what I did and it worked for me. Actually I did it to my fathers' wife as well. They're not your parents, its not their business. You'd be surprised what parents will do for a bit of peace. Raise h**l son.

Answer 24

ok here we go........You need to talk to him. sit down in ur living room or something have a cup of coffee or tea or somthing like that. I actually got in a fight with my step dad today and we talked and worked it out. first tell hime ur problems calmly and see what he has to say about you music. try to work out a comprimise with him. try to get him to listen to your music and see if he likes it, then why don't you try to listen to some christian music, I'm a christion and I listen to the Red Hot Chili Peppers and alot of christian sfuff to. eventually He'll come  around

as for the computer, don't do anything horrible and He'll eventally take it off......but when he does that, that doesn't mean that you can do bad stuff

and as for moving.......talk to your parents about this and see if they can take your opinion into thought, if they still decide to move....then you'll make new friends and it's kinda like a new beginning....and you can still talk to ur old friends on the phone.

but if you want a hobby....try reading....when ever I get mad I go in my room and pick out a  nice book (because of my little incident with my step dad today, I finished Harry Potter =] )

Answer 25

Call a child help line if he continues. But, it would really be better if you just speak to your mother about this privately. You could always think about moving in with your father.

I can relate to this too, because my father-in-law is exactly like that. But, maybe worse... LOL!

As for doing things to keep your mind off the pain. Writing can be so relieving. You can spend your time writing songs and/or poetry.

Ever heard of the band UNDER0ATH? They're christian rock.

"Some Seek Forgiveness, Others Escape"<--song by them

Turn your feelings into art. And, have hope. Don't let anyone change you. Always remember, there's only one you.

Best of luck.

Answer 26

tell your mom about it tell her to say 2 him 2 relax its not bad

Answer 27

He is only trying to do what he thinks is right for you.

There are many great hobbies you can take up.

Some hobbies:

photography - it is a great one for expressing your self through the world from your point of view.

collecting -  stamps, rocks, antiques, coins, trains, figurines,comic books, there are an endless amount of things to collect.

models - cars, planes, trains,dinosaurs...

jewelry making

drawing

painting

READING

There is some good Christian rock music you might like. You should check it out. Just Google Christian rock.

Good luck, it could be worse, you could have screwed up parents that don't give a hoot.

Answer 28

Is your mother the same way now that shes involved with him? If not try sitting with your mother and talking to her alone when your stepdad is out and tell her everything and how it makes you feel. (primarily aim for it makes you sad and it feels like he is restricting you from things that make you happy) Talk to your mother!!

Answer 29

Well if he is a christian then he should guide you for yourself  to come to the "right decision" rather than force you his beliefs.

1 Peter 3:15

Personally I do not see anything wrong with your choice of music.