I am unsure of my sexual orientation!?

Question

I don't want any bashing because I am almost 15 (2 days) and I have been questioning since last november when my mom asked me if i was g*y (long story) and once i got over the official panic i finally decided that it doesn't matter at all. but then last week i pointed out a colorful multicolored bag with hearts all over it and said i liked it (i was pretty sure i was straight) and then she goes are you trying to tell me something? that day i was really distant with my bi friend and ever since then i have become aware of girls again. every time somebody asks me if i am g*y i start questioning the whole thing over again... I feel almost like the only one because nobody talks about this stuff (and when someone told me he was bi curious i felt soo much better).

advice?

personal stories?

anything would be helpful except bashing please no bashing!

Answer 1

who do you feel more attracted to? never mind what others say or do. just follow your heart and that will give you the answer.

Answer 2

oh my god whatever feels more right to you go with it dont question it if you do you woulnt be happy

Answer 3

I was n 2nd grade wen I started noticing girls and was asked by my Mom if I was a L*****n. Didn't know what it meant but she explained it to me and all through school I still questioned my orientation. However I am now 21 have a boyfriend of 2 years and still find myself looking at women from time to time. I believe I am straight and think it's just something I'm curious about (being with a woman) but don't know if it's something I am willing to experience. Don't know if this helps you or not...

Answer 4

Well, To be completely honest;I believe that everyone has their own personal sexual orientation.I don't simply think anyone is born g*y or born straight; it's their past and present that influence their sexual orientation.My question to you is this; before your mother asked if you were "g*y" did you ever think about other women?If you did, maybe you should experiment.If you didn't then it might just be your mother's influence.By influence I mean because she asked about it, you began to wonder "what if?"

Answer 5

It is my opinion that all humans are bi-sexual, meaning that they can achieve sexual gratification from either a male or female.  I think that society hammers into us that we are to be straight, so hard that "most" people repress any such urges.  

It is quite normal for young people to be unsure of their sexuality; questions arise about health, relationships, anatomy and sexual preference.  Exploring these areas is 100% normal.  Being promiscuous is not recommended however.  

Engaging in heavy petting, making out, that is a part of the experiment for you right now.  Taking things beyond what some call "2nd base - or 3rd base, is not so wise at the age of 15.  

I suggest that you should reserve the right to decide if you are straight or g*y until the day you fall in love (which is completely different and almost unrelated to s*x) with someone.  When you fall in love you will then know if your preference is male or female.

Finally, your sexual orientation is really no ones business.  I suggest you refrain from participation in conversations that are at best rude. If they want to question your orientation, let them but don't stoop to their level. Ignore rudness, focus on the positive.

Best of luck to you!