I am very seriously depressed about being grounded. PLEASE help me?

Question

I really am. I'm not just whining. It's summer and we live in NYC and it's as hot as frick even with the AC cranked up and I spend my whole life either at the bookstore where i work or here and I am just so unhappy. I mean MISERABLE. I was grounded for 3wks for something dumb, I get that, and then last night I got grounded for another whole WEEK just because I was HONEST. My parents are divorced and I spend the summers here and I'm just over it and I don't want to be here anymore, and I told him that and that he's a total hypocrite because he's 46 years old and he's dating someone who's like a fraction older than me - she's a MED STUDENT - and he is so controlling over who I date and he was out until 2 in the MORNING and I have to be in 10 during the week even thought its summer. I'm a top student and normally a really happy girl and this summer I just feel miserable every single day.

I honestly think I'm gonna lose it if he doesn't stop the grounding! My mom said I have to stay here.

Answer 1

Sorry to hear your situation. I used to feel the same way when I was your age. 3 years ago, so I completely understand. But, if your mom says you have to stay, and he wants you there, you can't really do anything about it.

Your best bet is to try to talk to him about how you're feeling. And whatever you do just be calm and not yelling, because that only escalates the situation. Since you are there, you have to listen to his rules.

But, if you're anything like me this will fall on deaf ears for like 2 years. Either way, good luck with your situation.

Answer 2

you do have a say over custody. and as i parent i can say that i would never expect my 17 year old to respect me if i was out acting like a fool   your too old to be home by ten your d**n near grown ... who grounds a 17 year old?  no wonder your depressed

Answer 3

You're a child and you must do as you're told. It doesn't matter who or what your dad does, he's an adult, and guess what? When you're an adult you can do the same if you please.

Answer 4

Dude seriously? I'm grounded for the ENTIRE summer for the second summer in a row. Last summer my mom cuaght me drinking, this summer i snuck to new york & she somehow saw me. I don't ******* know what she was doing in NY but whatever. Why don't you read a book or something. It's 3 weeks, try 3 months. Or invite your friends to go to the book store where your working and pretend your helping them look for books and just chill with them. Or run away from yo pops. Tell your mom that hes being unreasonable.

Answer 5

Is it at all possible to just sit down with your dad and talk about it? Being a teen sucks, you want Independence and freedom, but you still have to listen to the governing rule of parents. Maybe if you just calmly talked to him (avoid yelling, screaming, insults, 'low blows'), he could understand the situation a little better.

As to his dating, that's his business, not yours. He has every right to go date some young med student till 2am. You really can't/shouldn't have a say in that.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Seriously, just get over it.

And stop doing things that cause you to get more weeks added onto it. If you do that, then you won't have to worry about being grounded that much longer.

Maybe if grounding is so horrible and depressing, you should think about moving out on your own and taking care of your own self!

Answer 7

Really depressed? Really depressed means you want to die...do you want to die?

what you need to do is grow up