I am worried that we might have been rude to leave?

Question

me and my bf went to a wedding.. he was the one invited and i came along as well.. the person who was getting married was a coworker of both of us so he knew that since we were living together that i would be there..that not the rude part.. but my bf wanted to leave before the cake was served..he asked me if i was ready and I told him if he was we could leave ..but it is customary to leave after the cake was cut.. just as I thought. he was in a hurry to get high..it kinda pissed me off..but i said nothing..but i wonder is it rude to leave a wedding before the cake is cut?.. again this is his friend not mine..

Answer 1

You were quite correct in terms of etiquette.  If you do attend the reception you should at least stay until after the cutting of the cake.  The sad part is how this has affected you...apparently your partners choice of partaking in drugs instead of partaking in a "happy & normal social" festivity did affect you and make you quite unhappy.  You honestly need to address this issue with him before it arises before you go to another social funciton.  Since you both gifted with things that will enjoy I doubt it will be an issue, but you are going to have to think of something to say if asked why you left early.  Your boyfriend needs to decide in the future what is more important...drug use or your happiness and social situations.  I wish you the best.

Peace & Love :)

Answer 2

It seems strange you would be concerned about being rude in a social situation when your boyfriend is a druggie.  Of course, you were rude.  And he is a druggie and that seems all right with you.  What is up with you?  If getting high is more important than being socially acceptable, you should be asking yourself why you are with this guy.  You are clueless what is right and acceptable as long as getting high is more important.  And dangerously close to being a loser in life in general.

Answer 3

i think it was rude ....maybe next time he can get high before he arrives then he wont be in a rush to leave

Answer 4

if you know the people well.....like if they could possibly be looking for you or care that you are not there....then you should stay until the end.....otherwise, you can leave at any point after you have spoken to the bride and groom

Answer 5

If it was a big wedding, no one probably noticed.  As long as you went through the receiving line or otherwise wished the couple well, no harm, no foul.

Answer 6

You have my sympathies to be living with a druggie who can't even be polite when his co-worker invited him and you to his wedding.. and he had to get high.. but better you left then.. it's your BF who will have to apologize as it's his co worker.. but if they know about his drug problem they are probably happy he left early.. instead of messing up the wedding for others... I am sure under the circumstances they won't mind... your BF should seek help for his addiction under the circumstances it was best that you left.. your BF really needs help if he already was high when you got there and he wanted to take more... He has to realize he has a big problem ...and he will take other more destructive drugs.. he was the rude person.. not you...but I am sure they were happy to see him go if he was already high...that makes a very bad impression to arrive at a wedding already on drugs

Answer 7

I think that was a poor excuse for leaving so early.  You should have waited a while longer, it will look like you just showed up for a free meal and then left.  Hopefully your friend got them a very nice gift to make up for his lack of manners.  His seat cost them a lot of money.

Answer 8

You shouldn't have left so suddenly. That was very rude. I suggest apologizing to the coworker for your rudeness.