I argue with my parents everyday, how can I stop this?

Question

we argue about little things, constantly, im really sick of this and actually want to move out even though I'm only 14! Is there anything i can do to stop it?

Answer 1

My dear Jess...

OH LORD... I know exactly HOW you must feel...because this happened to me all the time as well (when I was your age)...It's just plain awful, I know ! But...maybe I can "sooth your mind"..when I say, that things will work out a little better as you get older, honey ! Just try to "eliminate" a few "trivial" things by agreeing with them "occasionally". Maybe you can sit down with them & have a "serious" talk & explain to them, that it hurts you, makes you feel real bad, when you disagree soooo often and- ask them to be a little more : empathetic  with you. Going through "adolescense" is definately a HARD thing to go through, that's certain, but try to make the best of it, Jess !!

You can contact me -anytime- if you have a "probliem" I can help you with ! I am always "here" for you, honey !!! Wishing you "betterment" for the future ! Greetings from Germany with all my love & care... Annette***

Answer 2

I argue with my mother constantly too, you just have to learn the last word no matter what.  They always think that they are right and if you go against it then you'll probably end up getting yourself into trouble.  Ignore them and just accept what they have to say because if you say the wrong you'll get yourself into more  trouble and that will cause more problems and arguing and its just not worth it.  

Hope I helped ^^

Answer 3

Think before you speak.  Ive found this really helps.  Collect your thoughts in your head before saying something that hurts your case or lands you in trouble

The #1 way to get respect is to earn it.  So collect your thoughts, and then speak calmly and respectfully.

"I understand why you say that/feel that way/, but I see it as_________"

If you cna cut back on the arguing it will make a lot of other things in your life better

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I used to have this problem with my family, but now I just humor them, and I don't take offense to what they say. I know that my mom means well - she doesn't mean to nag.

What you can do is not be rude back to your parents, even if you feel they're being annoying. They're not trying to, they're just old and they have forgotten what it's like. I'm not saying you're rude or that's what causes the fights, but I remember being pretty rude when I was 14- not on purpose, but my parents always thought I was rude.

Answer 5

just try to compromise with your parents and when you and your parents disagree on something try to convince them your right =)

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Answer 6

No matter what you do, you and your parents are always gonna have some sort of argument. It's a part of life.

Try seeing the argument through there eyes. There must be some reason why they are going against your opinion.

Try really explaining to them, about your opinion, so that they can see through your eyes too.

You are sort of contradicting yourself when you say that you guys argue about little things, but you feel like you wanna move out.

If things get really extreme, you may want to see a pschcologist on something like this. For the time being, if you sense that an arguement is coming on, the best thing to do is try an avoid it.

That's the best i got, hope i helped??

Answer 7

Try listening to your parents, they aren't idiots. You are only 14, so you are going to feel this way, you are going through your rebellious phase. They are only telling you things that make you mad because they have been there and done that and are trying to make you a better person without going through all the hard stuff.

Answer 8

Hmm....try shutting your mouth.

You don't always get your way. You are not a spoiled little 4 year old anymore. You are a young lady, act like it.

When you pay the bills, you call the shots. Until then, shut it, show some respect, and be grateful to the people who gave you life and continue to support you in your ungrateful selfish attitude.

Answer 9

- think before you speak

- put yourself in their shoes

- tell them to step into yours

- don't get fired up so easil. when they upset you go into your room and punch a pillow, then come back out and talk to them calmly about why they upset you.

hope this helps!

Answer 10

Do the arguments have to do with you not doing things they've asked you to do, like cleaning your room, helping with housework, etc?

You're not going to collapse from exhaustion just doing a little bit of stuff around the house. Do you think it's fair that your parents work all day and you do nothing? Why should they work all day AND come home just to clean up after you?

You don't give any info about details in the arguments so I'm not sure my answer will help you.

Maybe you can learn how to pick and choose the fights you want to take part in. If it's something that is meaningful to you then argue your point. If it's something that you have no control over, and never will, that's one of those fights to walk away from.

Walking away from arguments makes you a bigger and better person. Helping your parents gives you trust and responsibility that is earned...not given randomly. Trust is not a right that's guaranteed...it's earned.

I've been in this situation with my 18 yr. old daughter since she was 10. It took me several years, and counseling, before I was able to do the choosing of fights I would win and those that were useless screaming matches.

Answer 11

I had that problem at your age, too!  It really sucks.  

Try planning some time when you can get by yourself and just relax and cool down.  Go for a walk, spend time alone in your room, etc.  Just chill out and don't think about any of the problems that normally eat at you for a while.  That could help you be less stressed around your parents.  

When you feel like arguing with them, try giving one of them a compliment instead.  Seriously.  It works.