I asked a question about cheating in AIT...?

Question

I actually asked the same question twice, I think. I asked if it's possible for a prior-serviceman to cheat in AIT. I also admitted that I do not trust my man too much.

I guess I should've added that he has never cheated before, at least not to my knowledge. I have tested him many times also (as sick as it may sound). I have access to all his online accounts, be it e-mail, bank or whatever. He knows that. So obviously he has nothing to hide. He is really not the cheating type. But he is the type to love s*x. But we've been apart now since January because I currently live in Germany, he was here to visit once this year. So he has went all this time with no s*x, which I do believe, because I can reach him at all times, he tells me where he goes and what he does always, I don't even have to ask. So he really has never given me a reason not to trust him. But also no woman has thrown herself at him. I trust him not to go look for it but not to turn it down if it comes to him, that's the best way to put it.

Answer 1

Well, I was in combat arms, all male, so no chance of cheating there, but AIT is not the same as basic training, at least in the Army. You have the opportunity to cheat just like anywhere else. My AIT was very relaxed, heck we got to go to the clubs on Fort Sill after training days, but like I said, we were all male and back then being g*y wasn't nearly as cool as it is now. (apparently)

Sorry, but he could be cheating anyway, cheaters tend to find a way regardless of the circumstances.

BTW, just the fact that you're asking this question tells me that "Is he cheating in AIT" isn't the question you need to be asking yourself.

Good luck

Answer 2

you know your man. none of us do. if he's showing no signs of being a cheater then lay off him. there's no need to be so psycho because it's pointless and it will drive a man to stray. the more you "test" him the more likely he is to cheat in the future. if you trust him, then shut up and grow up about it. you arent ready to get married if you feel you have to "test" your fiancee.  

Answer 3

Nothing is more dear to a service man or woman than the ones they leave behind. You are the source of their strength so be strong for them as, if they have any intestinal fortitude they will remain true and strong for you. Don't see shadows when there is full light on the situation. I was in Gessien, then Babinhousin. And I'm sure I'm not spelling them right but that was a long time and many much beer ago.

Answer 4

Sounds like you're worrying about nothing. You'll drive yourself crazy. If he's a professional in whatever he does, and has standards and morals, there is little to be concerned about.

Answer 5

By the sounds of it, you are nowhere near ready to get married. He has given you no reason to doubt him, yet you do incessantly. Yes, he will have the opportunity to cheat. That doesn't mean he will. And if he is someone who is going to cheat, he'll find a way no matter how much you check on him. It is out of your control.

Trust is essential in any relationship-- more so in a military relationship. You will spend most of your relationship apart, and if you can't trust him, your relationship is headed for failure.

I think you should be working on your own insecurity issues.