I asked about adding a daughter's family into a family tree.here is how i handle it.give me your thoughts.

Question

1--the tree is by invitation only it was public.

2-- i took out all last names.

3-- i took out all dates such as birth,death, marriage ,military and school names and dates. my answer to her was 1--let the other adults in her family answer for their selves. 2--what will be her answer when her grandchildren want to know where they descended from. ( actually it is a very proud heritage they have)am i right or wrong??

Answer 1

I think you have taken the right steps.  Is this a website you've created?

  

The trees I've added from Family Tree Maker into Ancestry.com automatically removed first names and dates for all living people in my trees, it will have "Living Smith" (just an example, where the "living" is substituted for the first name and the last name is given) but gives no dates or locations or data at all.  You might consider (or propose) doing that instead...

Your daughter may still have issues with it, but perhaps it would help if you could show her the proposed site so she could be more comfortable with the whole idea.  If she still opposes it, leave out her branch.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

I agree with Terry B... if you show her the website and let her see that there's no personal information that could be used to identify living people, she may be more comfortable with it.

I understand your goal is to make this information available to your grandchildren and their descendants.  But keep in mind, by the time they become interested in their ancestry, the website where you've posted this info may no longer exist!  We just have no idea what will be availbale online in the future.  So, in addition to this online tree, you might consider printing out a hardcopy especially for your daughter's children.  And since it won't be public, you can include all the details you want.

Answer 3

I would say you were wrong--

1. with no last names or dates, how is ANYBODY supposed to find your family tree, public or not??

2. if it is a proud heritage, as you say, be proud enough of it to SHOW these last names, dates, military service (I'd feel very honored to know someone in my family won the Congressional Medal of Honor for military bravery, for instance. Even a Purple Heart is worthy), school names, etc.

3. the other adults in her family could add their personal information if it is unknown to everyone else. For instance, my great-grandfather was shot and killed in Missouri in 1920, at the age of 55, but some other people trying to track our family's roots have him dying in Colorado in 1967 at the age of 102--just because another man had the exact same name!! I'd hate to say how many "family trees" I've had to correct this one fact on.

4. if you put no marriage dates down, how is someone going to know if , perhaps, their parents might have been first cousins or--God forbid--brother and sister who'd been separated at birth or something but who met later on and got married after falling in love???

5. Living people should be listed as such (LIVING Jones), with no identifying info for the purpose of identity theft, but dates for NON-LIVING persons should be on the genealogical charts.

Names and dates are the whole purpose of genealogy. Otherwise, it is just a list of names that someone doesn't recognize a few years down the line and tosses it in the trash because they didn't know what it was.

    Even the Bible has a family tree--several in fact: Noah, Abraham, Cain, etc. (you remember the stories of "so-and-so begat someone else" in the Old Testament?).

Answer 4

since I answered this in the other area, I will just add one other comment.  Her children will have the information which you have already researched.. which is their dead ancestors.  My research is in many places.. none of which need to include me, in order for my children/ grandchildren to make the connections.

If you follow basic genealogical standards and courtesies, you have no reason to survey every adult as to their preferences.

Living persons have no reason or need to be posted online, to further anyone's research.

Answer 5

I am confused by your question/statement.

If she's your daughter, simply list her, her husband (perhaps his parents) and your grandchildren.

If she is a step-daughter, you are not obligated to list her on your family tree, as family trees show a direct bloodline, of which she does not belong.

If she's your daughter-in--law, you should list her (by her maiden name), however, listing any of her family, other than a courtesy listing of her parents by name only, is not necessary or required. If she wants her family listed on a family tree, she should start one of her own.

Since I own my tree on ancestry.com, I can build it according to my desires. My daughter-in-law has access to it as a contributor and has been researching and adding her ancestors. I not only love my daughter-in-law, I like her.



My step-daughter-from-h**l, my 2 ex-step-mothers-from h**l,  my son's ex (mother of my only grandchild), my ex-husband and my husband's 2 ex-wives and my brother's 2nd wife/widow were purposely omitted.  

It's your tree, so you have the right to add or omit whomever you choose.