I asked my Fiance to buy me a small dog, he said no, but then turned around & told his daughter ......?

Question

(my fiance & i extended our families he has a daughter and i have a son, both from prev relationships) We have an American Bull dog, everyone in house takes care of him, but my fiance walks around telling people it's his daughter's dog. i dont think it's right since we all love him. i told my fiance that i wanted a small dog in the house for everyone, he said we shouldnt get it, he doesnt like small dogs, but then later on he told me that he told his daughter about getting a small dog & since she was so happy he was going to make it her birthday present. i told him it wasnt right that he does that, i figure but if id had not told him he wouldve still done it. i noticed how he caters to his daughter wayyy too much, every one loves their children but we have all together have 3 children & one child shouldnt be spoiled more than the others. instead of him sleeping w/ me at nite he will go and sleep next to her, he wont leave her more than a few hours w/ me & my son..what to do??

Answer 1

How old is this girl? I ask because having daddy sleep with her past a certain age doesn't sound...safe to me. What happened to the child's mother? I would suggest pointing out that if she gets a dog for her birthday, what is your son and other daughter going to get? Giving pets on birthdays (especially relatively large ones, unlike fish or mice for example) is unfair if you have more then one child who likes animals. Get the dog, but insist that it be gotten for the whole family. He isn't the only parent!

Answer 2

Yeah thats kind of creepy. I'd talk to him about his vveird behavior, either leave him or just tell him he's not the only one that gets to make decisions and he needs to treat all the children equally. If it vvas me i'd just go get a dog for myself and if he gets mad so be it, not fair for him to make that decision but then change his mind and make it ok for his daughter.

Answer 3

End the relationship.  Sounds like too many problems before you are even married.

Answer 4

Yes. Totally creepy. Rejecting the idea of a family dog for a personalised dog. That HE gave her. Rejecting the bed of the wife for the bed of the daughter. Calling him your fiance is a total joke. You sound clever enough. Now prove it to yourself. Is there a lock on the gate?

Answer 5

This guy needs therapy.  I think you are smart enough to know you can't marry him with these issues.  You may as well sign the divorce papers along with the marriage certificate.

Answer 6

This sounds just wrong. He sleeps in her room at night because???? Have you asked him why he sleeps in there??? Because I would expect a very good reason....and unless she has a life-threatening condition that requires constant monitoring there is NO good reason for that.

He needs to realize that the two of you are a team and your relationship needs to come first so together the two of you can raise healthy kids.

Honestly I would be creeped out and worried about this obviously out of whack attachment to his daughter. Nanny cam anyone?

Is she old enough to go away to summer camp or sleep over at someone's house? If so, send her and start creating some breathing room for the kid.