I broke up with him, but I miss him so much?

Question

I broke up with him after a year in a half because there were a lot of faults in our relationship, he is very co-dependent and insecure. In the begining of our relationship I was so content with being with him, lately I just couldnt handle it anymore and noticed myself not even thinking about him. I broke up with him and he is devistated. I cut off all contact with him. I miss him sooo much though, I have to keep myself busy. Whats wrong with me? Ps-Im 22 and he is 20

Answer 1

its called love.........call him

Answer 2

How funny is this that it was you who found all the faults and yet now miss him AFTER you made is irreversible.

Answer 3

You're young and obviously dependent on a guy to keep you happy. You're the one who sounds co dependant and insecure.  

Answer 4

You broke up with him for a reason...you weren't happy with him. You miss him because you have been with him for a year and a half, not necessarily because you are in love with him. Give it time and you'll be just fine.  

Answer 5

Maybe because deep down you know he wasn't that bad you just dwelt on the negative maybe you should have tried to work out the kinks before bailing.

Answer 6

I too just broke up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs; and for the same & similar reasons. However, we are a bit older than you (i'm 25, he's 29) I think it's possible to love someone but know somehow, in the long run- it probably won't work out. This is why it can hurt so much (for the one who does the breaking up) you sincerely care about the person but know it's time to move on- even though you know you'll miss them terribly. It hurts wishing something could be, that is never meant to be perhaps.

Even though there is greving and a time for mourning, make plans with your girl friends- read a book, do something you've never done before, be gentle with yourself and pray for him & his happiness too. Let him go- it would be selfish to contact him soon after breaking up.

I recommend a book by Daphne Rose Kingma on relationship and breakups, also her book on "loving yourself" and "true love". those books have helped me tremendously in this difficult time, offers insight and may help you too.  

Answer 7

You seem confused-Read the book It's called a breakup because it is broken.  There is some really good girl advice in it and it really helped me get through the same situation.