I came out to my mum and shes crying?

Question

well i just told her im g*y and shes crying continuasly for like 2 hours... is this a bad sign.

Answer 1

no it is not a bad sign it is confusing to your mom and she thinks it is her fault for some crazy reason it is your job to comfort her and explain it is a choice that you made and want her to support you

Answer 2

She must really want grandchildren...

Yeah that is a bad sign.  I don't think mothers want to her their son is g*y.  But hey, it's your life.  So she has to accept it.

Answer 3

Well, consider how she's thinking:

1.  She had a mental image of who her son was

2.  She had hopes and dreams of some stereotypical family and grandkids after you meet some special girl

3.  Whoops!  Turns out you like guys instead.

Basically, your role at this point is to "gently" reassure her that you're still you.  If you want kids some day, tell her this, and that you still care about her, and havn't changed as a person - that instead, you're still you.

You've come out, and broke her mental bubble of how "life is", now it's time to give her a new image she can cling to instead.  

The other part is, you have to pick up if she's crying for herself, or if she's crying for you.  Chances are she's well aware of the various suble discrimination done against g**s on a daily basis, and besides having her own reality knocked aside, she may be concerned about your future.

Is it a bad sign?  If she continues doing this for days, then yes.  

In the meantime, it is a huge shock (unless you've been a huge Phil Collins fan for years) that she needs time to deal with.

Be there for her, but don't hover.  She probably just needs time to sort her thoughts.

Answer 4

I thought you left her a note. of course she is hurt. no mom wants to hear that her son is g*y. It will take her time to accept that, every mom wish is to have a son, and grand kids,,it will take time.

Answer 5

well it could be, is this just what ur thinking, if it is let her know and just tlk to her and tell her how u feel.

Answer 6

depending on your mom this could take a long time for her to get adjusted too like days, or weeks, or months. Give her some space and consider what you just told her and how it affects her like no wedding, no grandchildren etc...

Answer 7

well tell her it could be werse well if ur a boy well its better than being a womanizing man w***e like alot of strait guys tend to be and if ur a girl well i wont need so much time to get ready in the mornings now

i understand its hard but give her time to adjust

Answer 8

i think you caught her off guard. she probably was,nt prepared to hear something like that, especially from her son.

Answer 9

I came out to my mom when I was 12. It's been almost 5 years now and she still won't accept me.

Don't feel bad about it though. There's nothing wrong with you and your mother just might not understand. I wouldn't say it's a good sign but she could come around.

Even thought you shouldn't have to, give her time and maybe bring it up so she won't feel uncomfortable about talking to you about it.

You can update me if you need to talk to someone and you don't want to talk to your family or some of your friends.