I can't accept changes well, what should i do?

Question

I don't think I can handle changes very well, I always get angry if such a situation comes, may be because I don't love my husband? This happens when he comes up with a change in life, of any kind.

This does not happen with my friends. My husband, if he comes to meet me as we two stay in diff place because of our work, I don't feel like meeting him. I am not fully convinced that he loves me completely. Nor do I. He knew that before marriage that I am not fully into this marriage. Then why did he marry me? I am going bad with all these things and they certainly upset me. Plz help if you can...thanks to all of you.

Answer 1

Let your husband go, and find more appropriate partners.  Life is too short to hate the person you are married to, or to be hated by your spouse.

Instead of questioning why your husband married you, you need to be taking responsibility here.  You need to ask yourself why you married him, when you were not fully committed to the marriage.  I think your husband was totally into it, the failure here is on your part.  You lied when you took those vows, you looked to take the easy way out by having a fall back husband, instead of being true to yourself.  

Answer 2

i am u in eveyway. your unhappy with some part of your life or not satisfied. its sorta ocd but i am with someone who loves memore then i do him. he stays for reasons only he knows. mine stays becasue he is determaned to make me a happy person impossiable.

Answer 3

Why did you marry him?  I do not think you handle changes poorly, I just think you are unhappy and should re-evaluate your situation. Maybe you are both unhappy and change would be good for both of you. You will never know unless you talk to him about all of it.