I can't attend my friend's funeral?

Question

My friend just died unexpectedly a few days ago, only 15, cancer. It's not fair and I can't stop crying, even though we've grown apart since I moved about 5 years ago. Anyway, I know when her funeral is (Tues) but unfortunately my parents are back at work on Monday, and, as I live a couple hundred miles away, it costs too much for me to travel there, so I can't go to the funeral.

We're writing a letter to her parents to let her know how we feel and stuff, but I just feel like I need more closure, and need to do something more to remember her?

I'm not entirely sure what I'm asking, I'm in a bit of a state...

Answer 1

so sorry for your loss

i think i see this on the news!

im sure she would understand the situation

just coz u cant see ur friend does not mean they aint there.

u might not believe in spirituality praying and stuff, but even if u say a few words in ur head for ur friend they will hear every word!

don't feel guilty coz u can not attend the funeral, u might actually feel better if u don't go,

hope this helps, take care x

Answer 2

ok maybe you could go out and buy some flowers and keep them in your home in celebration of her life as it is a long way for you to travel and im sure her parents would understand this situation. you could also maybe visit your own parish church on that day and say a few prayers just the fact you are asking what to do on ask is enough to say you were a good friend what ever you choose will be right.

Answer 3

Light a candle somewhere quiet and sit quietly for a time(however long you want)think about the good times you had with your friend and that you'll always cary those memories in your heart be glad you knew her. If you do this on the day of your friends funeral then you can say goodbye to you friend in your own way. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

I'm incredibly sorry to hear, that I know how it is to lose someone close to you unexpectedly. The best thing you can do is remember her in your own way, it's obvioulsy impossible for you to get down and that's something you can't help. Perhaps doing something yourself to remember her, looking at photo's or if you are religious visiting a church etc.

Once again sorry to hear that

Maxxie

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Answer 5

when one of my best friends died i was in hospital being treated for cancer and it broke my heart that i could not go and give her my last respect.so i wrote a long letter to her daughter telling her how much i loved her mum and a lot about the good times we had together.her daughter told me recently that the letter has given her a lot of comfort and that when she misses her mum she gets my letter out and reads it again.she said it means so much to her.why not plant a rose with your parents permission in your garden and everytime you see it in bloom you will remember your dear friend.