I can't believe this - could it really be true!!?

Question

After 18 months of trying, I finally got my BFP this morning!! 18 months ago, we had a miscarriage and were told that it was doubtful we'd ever get pregnant on our own. After countless failed IUIs, several "trials" with various fertility meds, and many tears, we decided to leave our fertility specialist two months ago. After I was told, "Just because you WANT a baby, doesn't mean it's in the cards for you," I'd had enough.

This was the second month of ttc on our own, and I suppose it worked! I know you rarely see a false positive, but I'm feeling so guarded right now. I'm so worried about being heartbroken again.

Is this what the next 9 months is going to be like? I'm freaking out.....

Answer 1

The next nine months are going to be the most awesome, terrifying, introspective time in your life.  It will be the best time EVER!!  Congrats and G-d bless!

Answer 2

That is amazing! Congrats and do not stress! Everything will be just fine.

~MLF~

Answer 3

Think of it this way..... most people have a miscarige with the first, so did I! now, a year on I am again....was really worried, with every little rumble i was thinking this is it...but now im 15weeks...

and well after seeing you're first scan and everythings fine...you feel absolutly great.

dont worry about it - to much stress will cause another, take it easy go straight to you're doctor.

congratulations x*x

Answer 4

Congratulations!!!! Buy some prenatals, and have it confirmed w/ your doctor. Good luck to you both!!!!

***sticky Dust***

Answer 5

Congratulations! It took me and my husband almost two years to get pregnant. I stressed the whole pregnancy. I know that your now suppose too but I was worried. My little girl is 3 months old now and wonderful. They are going to tell you to stay calm not stress and enjoying being pregnant. But that is hard when you want a baby more then anything else. Go ahead and call your doctor and tell them because since it has taken so long they will let you come in sooner then other pregnancy to be checked. Good Luck and Congrads!!

Answer 6

Ahhh...the comfort of finding somebody who feels the same as I do.  It took my husband and I 18 months exactly to get pregnant.  We'd tried Clomid, Metformin, and  I even had surgery to check for endometriosis (I didn't have it).  We were planning to go for more fertility treatments, but it wasn't looking too good.  Then, one night when my period was late, I took a test absolutely knowing it was going to be negative, and I was going to feel that pressing feeling on my heart that sometimes drove me to tears...you know what I'm talking about.  It was positive, but I couldn't seem to wrap my brain around it.  

You will finally "get it."  It happened to you...you're going to have a baby.  Many women have miscarriages; it doesn't mean this will be a pattern for you (usually it isn't).  I'm so happy for you.  Don't freak out--fall in love with the idea that you did it.  

Answer 7

Yay for you!!!!! Do your little dance and try not to stress:) Yes the next 9 months will be alot like the tww.

Answer 8

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. It must be a great feeling, though very ambivalent... When I read your question, I could recall my own feelings lively. I fell pregnant with my third attempt of IVF after 3 years of "trying". And for nine months I was worried something would go wrong. Although I have to say that I did really enjoy every moment as well. But the scary feeling of loosing the baby that I wanted so desperately was always there somehow. I think it is normal and very hard to push it away.

It is too easy to say not to stress out. Of course you are feeling guarded. For now, the only advise I can give you is to do the same things you did before you fell pregnant. Fit in some happy distracting moments, like dinners with friends or going to movies.

I know, it will feel like it's going to take forever, but It will get easier for you when you start feeling the baby and also more enjoyable.

And may I add that you fertility specialist is a real %&^%$#  and should have chosen another job to come up with a comment like that!



I wish you all the best and hope you'll be able to enjoy it soon enough as well.

Answer 9

Congrats ! I am very happy for you !

Stop stressing so much - this is the first thing you should do for the baby you are carring ! And this is how you should be for the next 9 months - NO STRESS :) Good luck ! Enjoy this lovely period in your life .

Answer 10

You're pregnant! Congratulations! Continue your prenatal, make sure you stop taking Vitex or anything not recommended by the doctor and set up an appointment:)

Congrats!!!

:DDDD