I can't believe what I heard, do I tell the parent?

Question

For a long time I've been nervous to ask this question on here, I'll probably get a lot of negative comments.

I'm a 17-year old college student who has no bad "history" and I'm pretty well-rounded. My mum has a friend who has a daughter of about 11 years old who I'm constantly asked to baby sit because her mother is studying to be a doctor and needs free-time. Over the past year she has become a very good friend (for obvious reasons I would never take her to the movies or something lol) and she is very mature. But here is what is troubling me, she let slip (because she thinks she trusts me) that she was sexually active with a 16 year old at age 9. Yes I swear she said that. Not only am I really friggen' disturbed and depressed at that for many months now, I wanna know if you think I should tell her mother or just let go of this completely.

Do I tell the parent? Thats pretty serious in my opinion, the guy should be sent to jail - but I don't want the girl to get hurt by the mother knowing, I care too much for her.

Answer 1

The kid is playing with fire and the mother is clearly AWOL.

Yes, talk to the girl and get her to stop. This is ultimately dangerous to her in every way. It is a shame that girls' bodies mature so quickly while their minds are yet so innocent.

Yes, tell the mother... she needs to know.

AND either aks the mother or ask for permission to take the girl down to Planned Parenthood for her to attend the teen sexuality course so she can get some real information.

Answer 2

Technically that was rape so it may be best to tell the mother.

Answer 3

yea definitely tell the mother about whats going on with her daughter..

as a child care provider for her its your responsibility to tell her of any wrongdoing involving her daughter..that way she can get this stuff stopped..

sure the daughter will b mad at you but i would rather her b mad then continually being molested

Answer 4

i would tell your mum and stop babysitting.

you are vulnerable to accusations against you.

she may have made this story up to "impress" you how mature she is if she fancies you, if this blows up in her face she could accuse you and you would have no defence as you have been alone with her.  if she was genuinely assaulted by someone else, then telling your mum would maybe prevent this from happening again.

Answer 5

Well how do you know she isnt lying? Was she fully aware of what she was doing?

Yes I believe you should tell her mother. This is gross. Well done for being so mature and decent. I would say confirm it with her one more time. This isnt right and it was 2 years ago.  

Answer 6

If your worried about telling her mom then talk to your mom and see if she can talk to the girls mom.  She needs to know and it might be easier if you have your mom help with it.

Answer 7

You must tell the mother.  Its your moral obligation.

Answer 8

try giving her some advice first.

Answer 9

Probably better to tell the mother.  

Answer 10

I have to agree with the advise that was givien to you by Liz.  The best approach is to talk to your Mother and let her counsel you on what to do.  Your Mother may want to talk to her friend..but at the end of the day this is not something that should be swept under the rug.  A nine year old girl is too imature to make a sexual decision for herself.  She is now 11 and this could cause her emotional stress and upsetting baggage for the rest of her life.  You owe it to her family, the girl and yourself to bring this to the attention of your Mother and her friend as soon as possible...Best of luck..and do the right thing..

Answer 11

Yeah, tell her mom. I am 15 and have done things, but 9 is still a little kid that cannot possibly know how to say no

Answer 12

DUDE! thats no joke! you were right to think about it tho! and i greatly respect that from you!

I understand how scared you are for her and her safety! i think you should go for your first instinct! you should tell the mother! but let it down easily on her!

start slow.. tell her how much you care about their daughter and how difficult it is for you to be telling her this. And then say how you found it best to tell her so that she can act on it if that kid was still around the innocent girl.

I rlly dont know you man! but i have great respect for you!

take care! i hope this would help! and only do what u think is best!

Answer 13

I think that you should call the relevent authority.

I think you can even do it anonymously.

Answer 14

Consider this for a moment b4 going to the mother.

The girl may have a crush on you and thought that by saying that, you would think she was experienced enough for you to be interested in. Also, if you was to >get her into trouble with her mum< she could get you back by saying that you aslo tryed it on with her.

If you can, get more info on what exactly happend between her and the boy, find out who he is and kick the part of his body which he uses to do bad things to young girls with, tie him to the high street traffic lights and put a nice note around his neck explaing to the public why he is there.

Answer 15

tell the mother.

Answer 16

M8 im old school and that sort of thing should be dealt with, if what you say is true tell the mother its her family and she can decide what her move is going to be..................

Answer 17

Definitely! She has to have her own issues if what she says is true or not. If it is true the guy should do some time! You will also be protecting other children from that freak.