I can't conflict pain on anyone! whats wrong with me!?

Question

OK, i am 14 years old.

And i think i have a problem, I can't bring myself to hurt anyone!

Like when someone is dissing my family, friends etc hurting me and stuff,

I can't bring myself to punch them, all this anger builds up inside me.

I can only bring myself to punch walls really hard, this releases all the anger somehow, i don't know.

The only time i really punched someone hard [in the face]was once, and while i was doing it i was holding back.

Having this problem makes me feel weak and inferior to all the other guys.

If you can help me, i'd appreciate it.

Thanks =]

Answer 1

You probably would just feel guilty if you did that.

You have a conscious.

I am exactly the same way.

I can't bring myself to hurt anybody.

Which is a good way to go about things.  

Answer 2

Don't feel weak because you refuse to resort to violence. You're strong in a way they aren't. You're holding back and that's what makes you a better person than they are. If you're upset, let them know in words. Count to ten slowly and take deep breaths. Let the oxygen calm you down. Then say what you're feeling.

The only action you should make in anger is to walk away.

Answer 3

The word is inflict (not conflict).  This isn't a bad thing.  Why do you think it is strong to punch someone for dissing you or your family?  It isn't a lot better to punch the walls.  Learn to control your anger.  If your crowd lashes out over everything maybe you need a new bunch to hang out with.