I can't do this anymore, I give...up, how do I move on

Question

I have been praying, crying and trying to have another baby. Again, this month AF is here. I am to the point that maybe God is not going to bless me with anymore children. I have a 3 yr old daughter who is my everything. I would love to have another baby to add to my family. I honestly give up, I am so tired of trying every month just to be disappointed again and again. Often times I want to ask God why, Why haven't I got pregnant yet. I am a wonderful mother who loves and cares for her child. I have been told on several different occasions by people that they can tell that I work with my child and teach her things, her doctor even said that for a 3 yr old she talks with the vocab of a 5 yr old. I am so sad, these women who can care less about there kids just keep having them. It hurts so bad I just can't stop crying. I am so thankful that was able to at least have one child, but I long for more. I wish God would just tell me why....

Answer 1

Girl, don't even sweat it. Sometimes your trial is your testimony, just because you can't physically have a child doesn't mean you can't call one your own. Being a mother, doesn't mean you have them and then you take care of it, its the act of showing love and compassion to a child (even if it isn't your own). Maybe God wants you to adopt one, instead of giving birth. There is some little girl or boy who wants a mommy just like you and their waiting for you to mend their broken heart and heal their scars. But don't get me wrong giving birth is a wonderful thing, but adopting is a mircale.

God bless...

Answer 2

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THIS SITE CAN LET YOU KNOW WHEN YOUR FERTILE, WHEN YOU OVULATE, AND THE BEST CHANCES OF GETTING PREGNANT. AND ALSO KEEPING TRACK OF YOUR MENSTRUAL

Answer 3

have you seen a fertility dr.  its common to have issues conceiving a second child.  

Answer 4

I am so sorry I have not been in your position so I cant give you any advice.. All I can say is just follow your heart.

Answer 5

I would suggest fertility medication. Consult a doctor seriously and if there is no possible way, move on. My uncle and aunt can't have any children so be happy you have one. They're adopting from China so maybe you could do that. It makes a better life for someone otherwise.

Answer 6

It can take up to a year of trying, see a doctor, or consider adoption there are tons of babies that need a family and you would be helping those same children that women don't care about but keep having more. Relax  you still have time and getting stressed won't help.

Answer 7

maybe its just not your time to have another kid? i know that sounds stupid but god has a plan for you and when he wants you to get pregnant you will. just give it time and stop stressing so much over it. that probably isnt going to help ya. give it time and things will turn out how god planned and hopefully he will bless you with another child. you just gotta wait til god says its the right time

Answer 8

Being to praise God for what you have and ask that He give you understanding of what he wants you to do next and where he wants you to go.  I have been in your same position and it wasn't until I started to follow this same advice that God opened things up for me in ways that I could only imagine.  Now, I'm going through IVF for the 1st time and waiting to take my preg test next week. I already know it'll be a BFP as I know what God has for me it is for me!  Stay positive and prayful.. things will happen when its time..  

Answer 9

sweety i know you probably don't want to hear this but god loves you and doesn't want you to suffer but you have to remember one thing its not what you want for you its what god wants for you and he always knows best because he can see the future, he is the future. i know it hurts and i understand what if feels like to question why not. but i promise you just continue to have faith and accept it into your heart that it will happen in time. the lord wants to bless you. he wants to bless all of us the question is are you ready to accept his blessing. he loves all of his children whether they know him, don't know him , accept him or don't accept him.please don't give up just try and relax and not think about it. i know plenty of woman who cant even have children but would have been wonderful mothers and they still had faith and sure enough 1 of which i know personally 5 yrs after the doctor said it was completely impossible for her to have children she gave birth to twins. i hope this helps in anyway possible. lots of baby dust and god bless!!!

Answer 10

I heard that second inferility is more popular than first child inferility.  I would go to the doctor get your bloods checked just to be on the safe side and make sure you are ovulating.  

Dont give up- go through the procedure.  you will get pregnant soon,  

Answer 11

You are lucky that you have your daughter, I have been ttc for 12 years.

Answer 12

I feel your pain.  Maybe taking a break from it all might help.  I've heard so many success stories once women have "stopped trying".  Take a vacation, relax, get into a hobby to occupy your mind.  It'll happen if it's meant to be.  Everything happens for a reason and I will pray for you.

Answer 13

Why don't you consider being a foster parent or adopting.  You will love the children no matter what and it is something that would help both you, your community, society and especially THE CHILDREN who need so much love.  

Answer 14

Focus on something else and it will happen!  

Answer 15

Hang in there maybe its not time yet. When you least expect it you will be and happier than ever!! I wish you the best and enjoy your little girl as much as you Can because once another comes along it wont be just her and you will feel bad that you didn't do more with her. good luck. :)

*Mother of 2 year old and 30 weeks pregnant with a boy :)

Answer 16

Maybe once you quit stressing about it...you'll have some luck.  My cousin tried for over 2 years, then she gave up...she called and told me, that she gives up, that she didn't think it was possible.  She was hysterical, I felt so bad because durring those two years, I had two children.  Litterally the next month she called me crying hysterically, she was so happy, she found out she is pregnant and due Oct. 18.  You just have to give it time!  Just keep your faith in God, and he will Bless you with another baby when the time is right.  Good Luck!

Answer 17

Hi,

You are so blessed to have one little girl already. I have no children and I am trying. I too got ready to give up and then my Pastor prophesied over my husband and I and told us to not to trust in our self and that our hearts desire will come to pass but in His Timing and His will not mine.  So I know where you are coming from with wanting another child. I am also reading this book called The Supernatural Childbirth. I am studying the bible and reading this book and there are many woman in the bible who were barron and then God came to them and they all had children. In the bible God does not want his people to barron.It says in his word that we are fruitful and we must mulitply. I will pray for you. If you need to talk you can email me [e-mail]. God is here for you and he hears your hearts cry.  

Answer 18

I think you should give up.. Walk away from it for a while because it seems like all the stress your putting on yourself is the culprit.. You are already blessed with one child which Im guessing you didn't work this hard for.. So walk away and clear it out of your mind.. Stop doing all the ttc stuff.. relax and it will happen..and have fun!!!

Answer 19

maybe ur husband is not ready yet(again) or maybe its not time for another baby yet... but da dey will come... dun worry too much, just relax. it isnt because God is not answering or anything, i too dont know why but just keep praying^^

*Hope i helped u... at least a little =)

Answer 20

Just focus on what you have, not what you don't.  It will happen when you least expect it.  Try not to dwell on it.  I have been trying for a year now, it's one thing after another.  I am NEVER able to tell when I ovulate.  I had the hpg done and they show no problem's.  I know what you mean about being able to provide a loving and nurturing home and see all these people who don't deserve to be parent's.  It is very sad for me too, I see so many friends having unplanned babies.  I tried to wait until after I got married (27 now) and no luck yet...I just pray and will pray for you too:)  God Bless and please try not to get discouraged, just try not to dwell on it.  

Answer 21

I'm right there with you. SOO over the stress and I really don't want to curse but it really is bs sometimes. UGHH!! I hate it. but on the giving up tip. I think this month is my last time trying too i think. I always hear women get pregnant when they least expected. but I totally agree with you. I'm ttc #1 but I always wonder how a crackhead or a woman who hates kids can get pregnant but me someone who is totally loving and healthy can't?? lifes unfair but stay in there.

Answer 22

I honestly don't believe there is a god at all, so looking for a god to give you answers simply won't work.  George Carlin does a fanastic schpiel on religion which you can see on YouTube.  Are you expecting God to come tell you that, actually, you aren't fit to be a parent, and he made you infertile?  How would that make you feel?  There is no god.

Now that we've gotten religion out of the way, you need to focus on science.  Your inability to conceive has nothing to do with a god, just science.  You need to see a doctor because secondary infertility is certainly a problem.