I can't ejaculate during s*x?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year, very happy, living together. I've known her for almost 5 years, so we go back.

Whenever we have s*x of any kind, I find it very hard to ejaculate, I really have to concentrate to do it, and even so, it's rare I do. Even during any oral, I can't do it, I usually have to m********e to come. Still during that, it takes a long time.

When I used to m********e when I was single, I had no problem with it, so I know I'm healthy, it's got to be something mental or subconscious. I feel fine around this girl, I have no problems of worrying what she thinks of me or anything like that, that's why I think it's something subconscious.

Can anyone give me advice or anything that can help?

Answer 1

Wow, that's gotta suck. Dude, I think the best way to go is just get over  your fears, and go to a doctor or something. Either that or the next guy could help you.

Answer 2

Some medications will cause you to do that.

Otherwise, I have no clue.  Sorry :(

Answer 3

It's probably nerve damage from circumcision which causes lack of sensitivity.

I had the same problem and am restoring my f******n.

It's wonderful.    It's the way that s*x is supposed to be---the sensitivity has increased, together with the intensity of orgasms.

You lack sensitivity enough for vaginal intercourse.    That's why masturbation works, because you need much more stimulation on your damaged p***s.      The amputated f******n, the dried-out glans and surrounding tissues, the scarring, the disrupted blood supply to the p***s all combine to create this problem; it's much more common than you would think.

Answer 4

maybe subconciously you place her pleasure above your own.

Answer 5

you gotta have vaginal s*x because that feels the best then you will ejaculate.  

Answer 6

visit your doctor.

Answer 7

Is she the first G/F that you had s*x with?  If so maybe she is not doing her part to help you relax and enjoy it. maybe you both need to seek help.

It's nothing to be ashamed of. You won't find the correct answer on here.Just a lot of kids that think s*x is a game.

Answer 8

sure, think dirty thoughts and have her talk dirty to you. Also watch some of the dirtiest sleaziest adult films together or keep them running in the background while you go at it. You'll become a fountain in no time =)

Answer 9

This doesn't sound like rocket science to me.  Have you tried having her soft hands m********e you during foreplay?   Just have her get you close enough to the point of ejaculation, and then go from there.....Have fun.

Answer 10

If you have no problem ejaculating during masturbation, then it's unlikely that you have a physical problem.  Something must be bothering you mentally about s*x in general, your gf, or both.  You need to think about what may be bothering you.  If you feel this is really becoming a problem, you should consider counseling.  I hope you get this resolved.  s*x is supposed to be pleasurable, not a mental burden.  good luck -  

Answer 11

There's something deep down inside you that's worrying or thinking about something associated with s*x. When you have any s*x, relax your body and mind, don't even think about ejaculating and try to enjoy. If you don't focus on ejaculating or thinking about anything stressing or disturbing you, odds are you'll ejaculate. Hope this helps.

Answer 12

most guys would kill  to have your problem

Answer 13

really lucky....  dont worry bout it... unless you're trying to have a kid then idk what to then.

Answer 14

And most guys ejaculate to quick... So you just find that it takes a really long time? Have her do oral or something for a while before s*x and go from that.