I can't get a word in with his motor mouth?

Question

I’m not sure if this is a typical symptom that someone with Bipolar….but my husband talks NON-STOP! I can't get a word in edge wise. This doesn't happen all the time, but it's frequent because he is very stressed out and has a lot on his mind...

Every time I say something, he has to interrupt me and he goes from one subject to another and keeps on going. I have yelled at him and told him "I wasn't finished". He apologizes, but it happens a few times in a few minutes and I again remind him that I'm not done talking.

Then if he continues and I'll just leave the room. Then he follows me and apologizes yet again and then he allows me to finish my thought. But then he starts talking again immediately after I’m done.

Lately I've been zoning out and not paying attention. He calls me while I'm at work and goes on and on instead of getting to the point. I tell him that I don't have time to listen to him babbling and that he needs to get to the point. I have hung up on him on more than one occasion.

Does anyone have any other communication tips I could try?

Answer 1

Just tell him to be quite while you talk, oh duck tape works great on the mouth, ha ha !!

Answer 2

Same problem here with the wife and believe it or not my mother. They go off on a tangent and to make matters worse, they're like a goddamn runaway train.

An example? Okay. Either one will do this;

"I saw Johnny Jones today and you know what he told me? You remember Johnny Jones, right? He was married to the Smith girl before they got divorced. In fact, she was planning on marrying Mike Doe and oh...speaking of Mike Doe..." and it goes on.

I find myself saying "And"? or as you "The point please?"

It happens with such frequency that it's almost hard NOT to be polite because they just don't seem to get it. I've tried "How about the Reader's Digest version?" but that pisses 'em off.

I think it's just something you'll have to handle as you see fit. You should and seem to know how far you can go without being mean or terrificallyly sarcastic. But words like 'babbling', 'droning', 'running your mouth' are fighting words so maybe you should avoid using them at all costs.

And finally...hanging up the phone on me will result in me being at your place of employ with a tire iron in my hand to beat you senseless with. THAT is one of the most rude and disrespctful things you can do to me and I never do it to anyone. My wife did that once when we were dating. And I can tell you I made my dospleasure known (verbally as no tire iron was handy) and it never, ever happened again.

So good luck. You may not be able to stop it but you might be able to tone it down occasionally with him.

Answer 3

i can sympathize completely. if my hubby and i are discussing anything, and i try to input any info.. he tells me we can't have a conversation without it being "all about me". however, he will talk on, and on, and on and during a conversation make comments on older conversations that i have forgotten. i learned a trick most guys use....mmmhmmm..yup,ok, uh-huh, etc. i listen with one ear though, because sometimes he may slip in something important.

Answer 4

either become a very good listener or get rid of him i bet he doesn't have many friends except really quiet ones that have nothing to say