I can't get her out of my head!!?

Question

I won't get into the whole story because it is extremely complicated, but long-story-short; I was in this "thing" with my bestfriend (who's a girl) but now we've been completely out of each others lives for 3 months now and we won't EVER see each other again and I'm so desperately trying to erase her from my head.

Recently I've been having these "flashes" of things about her that is driving me INSANE. I've burnt (or gave away) every trace of her around me and pretending she didn't exist - but it's USELESS because she is like a permanent scar on my mind and heart.. I even started to "see" her everywhere I went, but when I'd look again, it wouldn't be her..

What can I do to stop me thinking about her??!

Answer 1

Although i am unsure what kind of fondness you feel toward your best friend, but most likely in a lover way since this is the LGBT section. The simplest way to forget about your past lover or anyone whom you have feeling for is to try to find someone else, go out with other people, be in a relationship, etc. It is pointless to stay in the past when we have limited time to enjoy our self in life.  

Answer 2

Meet another girl, maybe with some of the other girls qualities but better. Enjoy social activities and great s*x with new girl. Then decide if it was just a rebound affair or if you really love this new girl.

Answer 3

mm.. I think the best way is to confront why you miss her. Since the reason why you two are not talking anymore is not stated, i'm going to assume its some sort of disagreement, in which perhaps you feel you've to clarify something with her, thus the repeated memories.

Or.. if you're trying so hard to erase her from your memory, it means she still means something to you. So much so you've started to hallucinate about her.

Perhaps you could try to find her again talk to her, this could make you feel alot better. I'm sure 3 months have given you alot of time to think things through and perhaps you'd have some things to say to her that you didnt before.

If you're very sure that you cant find her, or will never see her again, in anyway possible. Then you've to let go of how much she meant to you and how close you two were. Let yourself know that the two of you had something good and that you should remember the good things but not let the bad memories get to you. If you still love her/like her/miss her, well.. no one that if you cant let go you cant do any of the 3 silently. If you do get to see her again some day, perhaps you could express that to her.

mm.. thats just wat i think. take care

Answer 4

Get out some more and find a new crush :D

Answer 5

Aw:(  Theres nothing you can do really except wait. Eventually, you will stop thinking about her. Its just a crush...these things pass:) I've been there before with crushes too...they feel like they wont ever go away. But it will!