I can't live without father?

Question

My father was everything for me in my family, there was always a property & ego disputes in my family, so the whole family always fought, brothers sisters mother all were full of selfishness & ego. But my father was full of love & warmth, he was intelligent, honest and a good human being, always helped the needy, he was polite, when the family fought, father knocked everybody's rooms, and waited till they open them and have dinner together. then one day he got sick, he died, now i feel lonely, my whole family was only my father for me, i feel like orphan, i could not fight with his sickness, his death, when i sleep, i weep for him..where can i find him now....

Answer 1

you must move on

do you think your father would want you acting this way?

of course not... he would want you to go on with life, live and be happy

get some grief counseling if you can

Answer 2

hello, aru.

i think u should move on. i had been through tis situation. ur dad is in a better place for he was a good man. u r so lucky to have him part of your life. listen to bye bye song by mariah carey song it help to peace ur mind the lyrics so meaningful..hope helped..

Answer 3

hi ! first of all wht makes u think tht u'r dad isn't thr with u ?????? he mite not be physically available bt i'm sure he mite b still watchin u & lovin u the way he used to , so cheer up & lead a happy life if not 4 u'r self atleast 4 u'r dad , hope u wld live happily here aftr regards YA ME

Answer 4

Im sorry,  I lost my father too. You would have countless memories think of them when u miss him. You can make an album of all the photos of him and  writing small notes for each one like a scrap book. You neednt do them all in one day. Just one at a time. You can write a diary on ur father. All I could tell is time is a great healer.  

Answer 5

He is still there with you. Its going to take some time and you will get stronger and stronger as the days go on. Go some where alone or take a walk and talk with him. I know how you are feeling i lost my father too and its been nine years but it still feels like i just lost him,but i take it one day at a time and he lives in me, in my heart just as your father lives in yours.

Answer 6

He's gone and you have to begin to accept that he's passed and move on with your life. I know that it's painful and you have to feel and deal with the pain to move on. This doesn't mean that you have a good life moving forward. Instead of dwelling on the sadness of death, celebrate his beautiful life and remember the good days with him. I promise you'll have better days than this.

Answer 7

Any person who is born, will leave this world some day. It is a truth that you cannot get away with that. You have loved your father all through the time he was alive. That is wonderful. You still remember him & miss him, This is very natural too.

Crying for the loved ones is very human. Do not stop yourself. You could just learn to accept the reality that he may not be physically there for you today, but is always there in your heart & will continue to bless you.

Answer 8

Aru ,,u have not mentioned ur age in the question,i wud have definitely answer u best.

But still i will try to give u a gneral answer

First of all everyone who is born has to die ,itz a rule of nature.

If u willl think over the words which im going to write now u will definitely smile and try to become more good than ur father.

Basically this world is a temporary phase of life,,itz a kind of transit and we alll have one destination ,,and that destination we aceive after death only..

Every dies in this world,,,ur fathers father died ,so did ur father...and u will die too...We will all meet our dear ones hereafter.no one will saperate us there,we will be having pleanty of time there to talk to ur father and loved ones.

If u realy love ur father all u have to do is to follow his teachings.U will enjoy .give alms,and care for mankind.

U will enjoy doing so and will feel ur father always wid u until we all meet our loved ones hereafter .

Answer 9

You ask - where can i find him now - but don't worry he will find you.

He is with you every day in your heart and when you need him most he will be there to give you strenght and remind you how a decent person would act in the middle of a group of selfish people.

When my grandfather passed away it was very sad and I wasn't sure how our family would be able to fill the void.  Then one weekend ( several weeks after he had passed away ) I walked into a local school where there was a community bulletin board to see what was going on in the neighborhood I heard some music - I went down the hall and there was a group of musicians there practicing for an upcoming concert.  It was a song that my grandfather would have loved.  I sat there and listened to them as they practiced and realized at that moment that my grandfather would always be with me.

When your family is acting particularly selfish and full of ego you can look around and giggle to yourself - picturing how your father would have gone on with grace and dignity in the midst of such silliness.

Answer 10

Nobody takes position of your father, I suggest that try to make some good friends, who understand your feeling, support you, and start live your life happily and make some aim in life and try to achieve them, be practical and live for your own happiness, enjoy the good part of life, travel adventurous places.

Answer 11

I am sorry for the loss of your father. He will always be with you in your heart, and watching over you. I know it hurts, and you will always miss him, but it will get easier.

One thing you can do to feel close to him is to continue the good deeds that he did. Spend time helping the needy, volunteer to go to rest homes to visit, work in a soup kitchen, whatever you can do to promote his memory.

When my son died, I decided to spend what I would have spent on him at christmas time to help a child that was in need. Another thing we did, was get a helium balloon, his sister and cousins wrote messages on it and set it free to find him. It helped them "say" those last goodbyes and later they just let him know what was going on in their lives.

Just try to turn your grief into postivie actions, that is what your father would want. He would be sad to see you crying and miserable. I hope your heart heals quickly.

Answer 12

you ask where can you find your father now IN YOUR HEART he will always be with you, love hurts and it will for along time I still miss my Dad, but smile about the good things he did and remember him for all the happy times and it is ok to cry just remember the tears are of love and I wish you happier days soon and remember he is watching over you.

Answer 13

Hi,

you can not feel orphan Ok?

Every body's life there is up & down movements

You have to tackle all this problems

Without problems no body can survive

Thanks

Anuradha

Answer 14

Aru.. You made my cry, remind me of my father.

But well life must go on.you should harness the quality of your father and try to be friendly with your family member,try to keep them united,let them show ego and selfishness, you be good to them.I know its hard.but give a try.In the end they are also your family.

Dont weep, be strong, cos when nobody is there, there is hope, dont loose it.

Good wishes.

sMILe.  :)

Answer 15

i can understand.because i faced that. i lost my father in my 16.he  was a great father in my life. he was only one friend,mother,brother everything in my life.try to do what he wish. dont feel lonely because his spirit always protects u.'

                                 ur sister.

Answer 16

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it would be nicer, if u rephrase ur question

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