I can't make up my mind regarding women?

Question

They like men to be gentlemen, right? But some of the gentlemanly things we do can be taken as inappropriate or disrespectful in the 21st century, especially by younger women. What is a man to do?

Answer 1

Please give specifics

Personally I want a woman trapped in a man's body LOL no really I do

From personal experience this is the best road to go, get a woman trapped in a man's body I want someone that understands me.

Answer 2

Don't know man, some ladies frown at gentlemen like conduct.  Their are just some that must like being treated like dirt because you hold a door for them and they think your trying to get them pregnant and make them quit their career.  Its always good to be courteous even though some don't like it.

Ladies by opening a door for you, or pulling out a chair we are not saying that you are a lesser being but we are treating you like royalty DU.

Answer 3

Men are supposed to be gentlemen. They are supposed to take the initiative and make decisions to do things. They are supposed to pay on dates and should always be chivalrous. Unfortunately, many females today (especially younger, more impressionable ones) are being taught that it is more important to be an equal than to be a woman and they forget that they are supposed to be a lady and to just let a man be a man. The reason they get offended is b/c they feel that by treating them like a woman you are knocking them down 1 notch in their race for equality. They take being treated like a woman as being treated like they are weak. Personally, I would rather be treated like a lady and have a nice time.

Answer 4

A Gentlemen is a ‘Toilet’ forget that be a MAN will you, it don’t matter what women want

It’s not your concern, this gets me real mad

You are a man, RIGHT? You are wasting your time worrying about what a woman wants, WHY?

You are NOT a woman, is that not their concern?

Some times a boy-man is with a woman in the bedroom and he has to ‘turn her on’ and ‘turn himself on’ then he has to take care of ‘The foreplay’ etc, etc

Well BOY-MAN! WHAT is HER job then, nothing?

Just be a man then all is clear!! OK

Answer 5

A Man is a man, a woman is a man with a wo

be the one that you are, OR I'll get hot headed & MAD

don't start me up with this!!!

Answer 6

Continue to be polite. Good manners are never offensive, except to people with chips on their shoulders. You're not going to get it right 100% of the time (no one does), but it's always best to err on the side of courtesy.

Answer 7

My fiance is very much the gentleman. He opens doors, carries in the groceries, buys my dinner, holds my hand, etc etc.

I've never thought any of it was disrespectful.  Every bit of it has always came out of his respect and admiration for me.. so I enjoy it.  We both know he doesn't HAVE to do it.. but it's sweet that he wants to.

Answer 8

Different women totally disagree on how chivalrous they want a man to be.  Some think it is a nice gesture when men pay for a date, others think it is controlling.  Some feel special when men open the door, but others think it would all be much faster and easier if she just opened the door herself.  My advice is to look for a woman who is generally compatible with your preferred level of chivalry.

Answer 9

There are many types of girls in the world today, some like feeling superior to their man, some like being treated as an equal, and some like for the man to lead. I think you should decide what type of girl you would like to spend your time with, and continuously practice that type of behavior until she comes along. The last type are becoming very rare, so if that is what you want, I suggest you begin looking in the churches. ;-)

Answer 10

Join the club, bro.

Answer 11

Ignore them, they are nothing but trouble and hassle.

Answer 12

This may sound a little crazy, but trust me! They have been conditioned to think that way by the worlds elite. It's all propagandizing! look up who funded women's liberation or the feminists movement, they are elites!

Answer 13

My friends and I have discussed this many times and here's what we've come up with (we are in our late 20's/early 30's) - we like for men to be courteous and polite.  I like when a guy opens the door for me, stands when I get up and similar "old fashioned" gestures.  

However,  don't generalize about me based on gender.  Don't assume I want you to pay for dinner, don't assume I need you open the pickle jar, and whatever you do, don't minimize my career aspirations and EXPECT me to stay at home barefoot and pregnant.

Basically, be nice to be nice.  Not just because I'm a lady.  But don't assume I can't do anything you do.

Answer 14

The women that find these things to be disrespectful aren't worth  a passing glance .  If she is offended by polite gestures and acts of kindness, odds are that she's not polite or kind.  Do it if you feel like it's the right thing to do and let them take it as they may.

Answer 15

Everyone loves a gentleman. What in the world are you talking about?  I haven't met a gentleman in a long long time.  Every male I know sits on the couch and plays video games all day.

Answer 16

Would it not be appropriate to figure out what you want first?

When you know yourself then you are at ease, and when you are at ease with yourself you are much more attractive to women

Why do you need to figure out women, it is not a video game!

When you meet a woman, first be yourself and respect her for who she is, if she is good and loving then give and accept love, and if she is bad move on unless that is what you seek.

Now pull yourself together! be a  MAN

Answer 17

You need to elaborate on what is taken, in your opinion as inappropriate or disrespectful please??

Oh OK well then just be nice. Don't play video games while your on a date. Pay for the date unless she offers to go dutch. Don't stare at her like she is a piece of meat. Treat her like you would like to be treated....and that doesn't mean putting her in a headlock and farting in her face while she's not looking!!

Answer 18

Try it, then see how they react. If they say nothing, it's good. If they say they don't like it, don't do it.

Answer 19

Please, give me an example of what "gentlemen" qualities you've demonstrated that has been misconstrued as inappropriate? You're going to have to be more specific