I can't seem to do the right thing! Help!?

Question

One of my closest friends named Michael got into a fight with me..

I really don't remember what happened, though..

Well, Michael has always been there for me and always made me feel better, and he would treat me like a sister. And I would treat him like a brother.

After an 8 month relationship with my last boyfriend, I was left heartbroken. My last boyfriend lied, cheated and manipulated me during the relationship and Michael was always there to defend me/support me. And he can practically read my mind. And if you're thinking that Michael likes me, I am positive he does not like me in that way because he has a girlfriend of 1 year and he loves her with all of his heart. And I do NOT like him in that way either.

Not so long ago, we were hanging out and he said "I love you, dongseng! [dongseng means younger sibling in korean.]" and I was just joking around saying "People who say 'I love you' are liars!", but he took it seriously and just literally ditched me. After that, we practically lost contact.

1 Month after that incident, he IMed me on aim and said he missed me. I told him I missed him too.. and he said "I still can't believe what you said." I said, "I was joking, Michael.. I didn't mean it literally." but he said that I shoved it at his face.. or something.. I really don't understand why he's mad at me..

It's been 2 months and it's driving me crazy.

Today, me and my friend ran into him while strolling through the park. My friend is friends with Micheal, too.

They are very good friends. I told my friend that me and Michael got into a fight and my friend asked Michael if everything is alright between us. I don't know what my other friend told Michael, but michael came up to me and asked me "Is what he said true? Do you really miss talking to me?" and I just literally froze up. I didn't know what to say. I stood there looking like an idiot, not knowing how to face the situation. When it came to situations/problems like this, I would just shut up and not say anything.. It's weird.

And my friend and Michael left me standing there after 10 minutes.

Can you guys tell me what got him so mad,

and what's the right thing to do..?

Answer 1

Maybe he thought that you were comparing him to your ex bf and thought u meant they were so much alike. I would just try to talk to him and tell him that you really didn't mean anything by it and that when you saw him and he asked you if the stuff your other friend was true that you just froze because you didn't know how to handle the situation and if you miss talking to him make sure you tell him that. Thats about all I can say. Hope you find a good solution!

Answer 2

awww!! omygosh it sounds like you had a really great, strong friendship. Dont let a little misunderstanding let you stop being friends!! I would apologize to him right away!! Tell him you really didnt mean to sound serious when you said that and tell him that you miss talking to him!! Cause it seems like you really do.

Do it like right now!! Dont waste another minute!! lol

A friendship as great as that should be able to last through hard times like this, so apologize and hopefully he will accept it. If you appologize to him sincerely and truely mean it and explain that you were only joking and hes still mad at you then there is not much you can do...if hes a real true friend he will accept your apology and things should slowly be good again. =D

Good luck!!

Answer 3

well i think you should just apologize even though u were just kidding

and if he questions it say im really sorry i miss you(as a friend)