I can't stand my daughter!?

Question

She is lazy, dumb, irresponsible, wants wants wants her way all the time. What should I do? Should I kick her out? She is 13 years old.

Answer 1

Children are a direct reflection of their parents.

IE: you are lazy, dumb and irresponsible.  She's 13 years old.  She's supposed to want her own way all the time and be lazy.  It's what teens do.  You don't deserve to have a daughter.

Thanks for the 2 points.

Answer 2

You are just frustrated with her.  Even though we love our kids sometimes we don't like their behaviour (I repeat it is their behaviour but not them that you don't like)...that happens to almost every parent whether they care to admit it or not.  She sounds like she is behaving like a typical 13 year old and it is up to you to lay down rules and have her follow them instead of getting frustrated with her.  Don't worry this is a stage and with your love, understanding and support she will outgrow it.  Kicking out a 13 year old would not solve anything but her sensing you thinking she is lazy and dumb will make things worse.  Try complimenting her on the positive things about herself instead of the negative.  

Answer 3

no you shouldn't kick her out you should make her shape up. Her being this way is obviously a flaw in your parenting skills and you should fix this. Although it may be a bit late to change it much. Instead of calling your daughter names like a 10 year old why don't you spend some time with her talking about ways she could improve what she does. Be a good role model for her.

Answer 4

No, but someone should kick you out. All of the characteristics that you have described she had to get from somewhere. Children usually learn my emulating those around them-and that means she's emulating you. What happened to you teaching her the opposite of these things when she was younger? You don't kick out a 13 year old. I'm sure she knows how you feel about her and maybe that's why she is acting the way she is. Be a parent and show her some love and then teach her what she should do. Go to some parenting classes-it might help you!

Answer 5

wow i wonder what my mom thinks...

Answer 6

Grow up! If my mom ever said that about me I would be so hurt you should be ashamed to even have to the nerve to say that about someone especially a young girl (13?). I feel terrible for your daughter!

Answer 7

Woah!! Sounds like you failed as a parent!! Lazy and dumb??? yeah they all want their way, its your job as a parent to raise her properly, she is the way she is because of you. And I feel really bad for your daughter...you kick her out that will show just how much of a pile you are!! OMG your such a loser, why don't you kill yourself??

why did someone give me a thumbs down?? its the truth isn't it?

Answer 8

You must be either the child yourself or emotionally challenged to say such a stupid thing!

Answer 9

charming...

Answer 10

No, you should not kick your daughter out. She is your daughter and you are her parent and at 13 she is hardly able to care for herself.

That said, it sounds like your daughter could use some good parenting. She needs to be expected to have good behavior, expected to have chores and things to do around the house and expected to respect her parents and those around her.

As to wanting her way all the time...what child doesn't want their way all the time? That is normal, but it doesn't mean she should GET her way all the time.

Show your daughter some love as well...certainly saying you can't stand her and that she's dumb is not a way a parent should see their child. She's YOUR daughter...love her!

Answer 11

h**l, YOU raised her.

Blame yourself.

She is your child, be responsible and GUIDE her.

Answer 12

auction her off on ebay.

Sell her to gypsy's

place an ad on craigs list

What the heck are you doing reproducing in the first place. You are no role model at all.

I should call child services on you.

Set her free to join a family that deserves her and then go back to the circus from where you came from

Answer 13

Wow...I couldn't have put it better myself...ladyamanda123!!

"No, you should not kick your daughter out. She is your daughter and you are her parent and at 13 she is hardly able to care for herself.

That said, it sounds like your daughter could use some good parenting. She needs to be expected to have good behavior, expected to have chores and things to do around the house and expected to respect her parents and those around her.

As to wanting her way all the time...what child doesn't want their way all the time? That is normal, but it doesn't mean she should GET her way all the time.

Show your daughter some love as well...certainly saying you can't stand her and that she's dumb is not a way a parent should see their child. She's YOUR daughter...love her!"

I will add this:  She's 13?  

Read this book:

Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager, Revised and Updated

Answer 14

You may be frustrated and it is obviously a single parent..

-seek help,it is ok to ask for help,you may have been misguided growing up,I am not here to judge your way of being and all you asked here is help,there must be some real help out there for you as always..I wish there could be a book out there in parenting but honestly parents are doing their best so I am addressing to take a step back,take a deep breath and rethink your statement:"I can't stand my daughter"-you would want to treat your daughter the way you would want her to treat you so in case you do want her to care for you when you'll be older take the steps to care for her now.For more info go to below link site and goodluck  

Answer 15

kick her out? that's horrible! she's your daughter!!! no one said kids were always easy, you have to try and talk to her and fix it, don't just give up, especially when she's only 13. and to call her dumb and lazy!

Answer 16

I think you should kick her out, at least then maybe she would be living with someone who loves her and wouldnt call her names.

you're a sorry *****.

Answer 17

You are a horrible person! Your poor daughter! I know EXACTLY how she feels! She may be lazy and irresponsible, but that's how teenagers can be! She can still change! You want to kick her out? You obviously don't know how to take proper care of her and even though she has flaws, she is still your daughter! Why don't you try to help her instead of kicking her out? You fail as a parent and I am very sorry that your daughter has to go through this. I have the exact same problem with my parents. None of you guys deserve to have children if you don't know how to take care of them.

Answer 18

Are you serious...is this a joke?  I hope to god you have not told her how you're feeling.  I mean what kind of parent calls their kid lazy, dumb and irresponsible.  What does that say for you?  If these actions are true, do you think she learned them on her own?  If you really feel this way, you don't deserve her...she deserves a better parent.  

Answer 19

Maybe learn how to raise your kid right and get off your lazy butt?

Answer 20

13! No dont kick her out no matter what she acts like she 13 for godness sake! Most teenagers are liek this theres nothiong you can do and its a bit harse saying you cant stand her you should be thank full you hav a daughter some people cant have children who wont them veri much! Your obviously not a good parent are you! I feel so sorry for daughter i dont no how see can live with you. You dont deserve children at all i think you should go change for the better of your family and yourself!

Answer 21

Um.. key word 13. Kicking her out would be a bad idea. I can't belive someone would post this on yahoo of all places. And what

mother would call her daughter Dumb?

Answer 22

thats kids for ya...

Answer 23

Didn't anyone tell you that kids would be hard work??

Kids also act the way they were taught so you must not have done your job as a parent and taught her correctly.  And yeah, thats the answer, you yourself are too lazy, dumb, irresponsible and selfish to deal with her correctly so you want to kick her out.



You don't deserve to be a parent.

Answer 24

Well dear she is a product of your parenting skills.  It absolutely blows me away that a mother would speak about a 13 year old child in this manner.  Either step up to the plate and start acting like a mother or give her a fighting chance and put her in a foster home.  But your continuous negativity towards her is going to destroy her self esteem and cause her many problems in her adult life.  Many teenagers are self involved.  As parents we learn to deal with it and realize it is only a temporary part of their growing up.  Instead of trying to find out what her problem is I would suggest you look within yourself and try changing yourself first.  And by the way, throwing a 13 year old out on the streets is child neglect.

Answer 25

She's a 13 year old girl.

She's going to be lazy and irresponsible and selfish for several years to come.

Calling her dumb though, that's uncalled for.

I may not have any kids myself, but insulting them outright isn't fair.

Even if they aren't the brightest, you should never tell them they're stupid.