I can't stand my mother, what should I do?

Question

My mother always behaved while I was growing up because my grandmother had her on a tight leash based on threats. But as soon as my grandmother left, my mother became a w***e and began to treat me badly. I cut her off for 2 years and left to live on my own. After 2 years she came looking for me saying she needed my help because she married an abusive guy (after only 2 months of knowing him) who was beating her. I let her come live with me (big mistake) and I invested my money into a bigger apartment so she could have a room. We agreed that she'd pay half the cost. Suddenly she decides to leave and break her promise because she wants to go live with her friend who is charging her less rent and go party. Turns out, her friend wasn't a very nice person and now she's back living with me. I had to accept her back because I can't afford this apartment on my own. She's nosy and fresh, I can't take this much longer.

Answer 1

Either find another room mate to help you pay for the apt. and and your Mom to leave or as soon as the lease is up, go back to a one bedroom and have her leave then!  You have helped her as much as you can and are not responsible for her, she is responsible for herself!

Answer 2

find a room mate and tell her you  have to find a renter that is younger

Answer 3

kill her

Answer 4

You can't stand your mother but you'll happily take her money for rent because you can't afford the place?

Answer 5

Your loyalty to your mom is very sweet but she's a women, who had a child, who married someone she picked for herself and the world will not fall to pieces if you gave her notice you were looking for an apartment you can afford on your own because you can not rely on her.  Don't waste your young life on someone who knows better but chooses to lean on others rather then grow up and behave her age. You are enabling her. The kindest thing you can do is let her go and move on with your life.  Once she has it together then you can start being her daughter again but for now you have to be the parent.  All the best!

Answer 6

feign amnesia.

Answer 7

Get out of your lease as soon as possible and get a smaller apartment OR get a different room mate to take over her spot.

Answer 8

Just try to find out at least one good thing about your mother.

She is the reason behind you. Try to tell  "I love you mother" in the morning n while going to bed.

Just give her a sweet kiss once in a while at least in imagination.

You know actually she loves you. and you love her too. It will take time but never forget that she is the only one belongs to you. you are part of your mother ,

if you are loving a person who loves you , it is not a big thing. If you are helping one who is helping you is your duty. But you are different and you are special. you can love and help your mother.

I wish you all the best. may god bless you.

Answer 9

She gave you the ability to even be alive, don't spend life hating her, she's your mom and there is nothing you can do but be there for her.

Answer 10

Since you can't afford to live there on you own, you have to put up with her until your lease is up.  When the lease is up, find a new apartment that's not big enough for her, and  move.  Most important, learn a valuable lessen....learn to say NO! to her.  Regardless of her crying, empty promises, threats, etc.  You made an uncomfortable bed, and now you have to sleep in it.  Don't do that to yourself again.

Answer 11

Okay no matter what happens remember she is still your mother, you can't change that no matter how much you want to.

She gave you food when you were hungry and she also put a roof over your head. yes i agree what she did was not right, but understand this, when your mom decided to become what she became, she didn't realise the emotions she would go through.

when you get inside her head you see that she was feeling dirty about what she was doing and she didnn't know how to handle it, i know i have been there but not by my choice.

you see i know she feels dirty because when i was raped i felt dirty for what the guy did against my will. now she is doing this with her own perrmission if we can say it like that and she just can't handle it all.

the best thing for you to do is to just be there for her. show her that you do care and that no matter what you accept her for what she is.

that is all that she probably needs. someone who isn't going to throw her away after they are finished with her and pay for her services.

be there, even if you don't want to be, she needs you. take it from someone who was almost gang raped.

Answer 12

Wow...she is buggin....u need to tell her what it is girl...doesnt matter who she is...shes the one who suppose to be helping u...u need to sit down and talk to her....tell her everything that is annoying u!...let her know girl....

Answer 13

I would say the best choice is to get out of your lease if possible, and go back to a place you can afford. Or, put an ad in the paper for a new roommate that will treat you with respect. You shouldn't ruin your relationship with your mother by living with her if you are unhappy. Also, if she leaves and you are counting on her to pay the bills, you are left high and dry. Living with her is not going to work. She doesn't respect you and you deserve that.

Answer 14

i'm not from the western culture,but i cant understand how can someone call his mother "w***e",if she is a w***e than excuse my expression you are "son of a w***e" .

you said i cant stand my mother but she standed you years when you you were a kid and didn't complain , and you cant stand her vew years!

Answer 15

2 choices:  tell her to leave and get a real roommate that will help out or suck it up for a little while, sounds like it is only a matter of time before she leaves on her own again, then find another room-mate.  At least if she leaves on her own and you get a room-mate when she wants to bounce back again, you can tell her I'm sorry, I don't have the room

Answer 16

I'd say, find someone else that can help you pay the rent. If you do that, tell your mom to hit the door, and tell her how you feel, do it sincerely. And maybe she will be willing to change seeing as though her ways are so bad her own daughter has to kick her out.

Answer 17

Buy her a one-way ticket to someplace far away.  Tell her its a party town.  Warn the police.