I can't stop thinking about this problem with my parents?

Question

i am really going through a hard time at the mo cause i feel like everythings on top of me and i'm thinking about this problem too much. Basically the problems there are mainly with my dad and the way they both are about things,means i do not involve them nor do they want to be or ever shown they do,about boyfreinds,they don't seem to act like its something that happens,i can't bring them round and to other stuff,and all the other things of being in a relationship don't happen or are made very awkward.

This is cause i am on edge all the time and anxious about how my dad would show me up if the guy was around him or we saw him,also cause my dads got a prob with everything he would moan whatever i do/whom i'm with,my current bfriend is aware of the situ and says it doesn't matter in some ways,its just whether in a big way or not,they like you to have told your parents and for your parents to at least know them,so that you can do normal stuff with them,but in my case that doesn't happen.

Alot of people whom i'm not sure of there ages and reasons,due to not knowing there situations in life,have told me that i should excpet it cause i'm under there roff,which i don't think is completely right,cause that would be like saying its like this when your here and when you go you will be able to tell them things and they will take a involvement and want to know about things and people in your life,you will be able to visit and stuff and that just doesn't hold true. Also tell to move out as i am now 28 say what you will about that. But this will not change much other than i know what some of the benefits will be,its not that i'm seeking there approval or anything or want to tell them how to be,or get things off my conscience,its just i would like to be with my parents the way everyone around me seems to be and its not fair that i'm not.

I suppose i'd like to know not that this is ok but that perhaps i have to live to the fullest i can,with things the way they are,change what i can. But i do worry what the guy will think and know deep down they don't think its right.

Answer 1

Wow seams to me your not very secure in your family which is such a shame have you ever tried just sitting down and talking to your family your dad may be bad in your eyes cos thats how you treat him ive no idea cos i dont live with you but as you say your 28 maybe its time to act your age and get independent and live an honest life talk say how you  feel get a man and move with your life and feelings maybe your dad is this way cos he feels its time you took control at your age and what he thinks is not really important you need to get real and live a good fun filled life live love enjoy