If I don't get this out of my system I'm just going to explode. What's wrong with a person who does something to hurt someone that they really care about, out of stupidity? I'm scared that there is something really wrong with me.
I have loved my best friend for a long time, but he has a girlfriend now and he's in love with her, and he thinks of me as a best friend. A long time ago, I had a chance to get in a long distance relationship with him and I didn't take it and I'm scared that my chances with him are ruined.
My best friend and I live in different countries, and I met him when I studied abroad in his country. Two years ago, I returned to his country to visit, and I fell for him, and he fell for me. He asked if we could have a long distance relationship. I really loved him, but I was planning on returning to his country for good, but I just didn't know when. I was scared that a long distance relationship would ruin the chance of a real relationship, and I decided to wait.
I returned to the US but we talked on Messenger every night for a long time, and then for a long time I was without a computer and I didn't hear from him for several months. Then last fall I got on Messenger again and I found out that he has a girlfriend down there. My heart broke in a million pieces. I asked him if we could ever be together in the future, and he said that "I would have liked to share my life with you, but now I have another gf. This is the decision I had to make... I don't know if I'm going to spend my life with her... but you can't go back in time... in spite of that I love her more, I haven't forgotten you." He also says that when we were going to school together he wanted me for his girlfriend, but didn't tell me because he was afraid of ruining the budding friendship. He says he is to blame but I know he is saying that because he doesn't want me to suffer.
I'm scared to death that there is something wrong with me because I have such terrible judgement. At the time I made my terrible decision I didn't realize that I was breaking his heart. I don't know what's wrong with me, if I'm just crazy or just a moron, but it's torturing me.
I feel sure in my heart that I can't love anyone else as much as I love him. Even if there were somebody else, I have something inherently wrong with me and I'm scared I would ruin it with them. I don't know what's wrong with my judgement but I make these terrible mistakes and don't realize it until years later.
Furthermore, even if there were someone else... I'm not trying to be mean but I'm attracted to latinos for some reason. I don't know when, or if, I'll ever have another opportunity to study abroad in mexico again... and even before I met him (he's mexican btw) I had my heart set on a latino guy, because the culture is so magical for me.
I keep wondering what would have happened if I had done things differently. I think about my friend all the time and he still cares about me a lot as a best friend. No one could ever be as special to me as him.
What's wrong with me? Why am I such a moron? Is there any hope of another chance with him or am I destined to be single forever?
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