I can't trust men in general at all. It's like they're only after 1 thing and don't care about anything else?

Question

I can't trust them. It's like they don't appreciate females at all only except for sexual roles. From my point of view, they will work there words on you until they get what they want, and then kick you to the curb. I've never been in a relationship with a guy ever because of this I can't feel secure in a relationship with one and i'm 19! Not trying to be vain here, but i'm not ugly by any means nor have I ever had problems with acne, hygiene, clothes, or weight. It also doesn't help that one of my supposed "friends" tried hooking up with me when I was drunk one night. And from seeing some friends in relationships, they all tell me that their guys never care about a d**n thing in the relationship--it just seems like they're so boring in a relationship and don't do anything at all except for be lazy and complain. So how can I overcome lack of trust with men? Is it something that just takes time?

Answer 1

You're just meeting the wrong guys. At 19, they can be shallow and s*x-driven. The nice ones are at home playing XboX live and drinking soda or something, not out woeing women.

This is pretty typical of younger relationships. When you get older, you'll see that your friends stop dating guys who are completely wrong for them, and start dating people with whom they can have a relationship of depth. The same holds for you. At some point, you'll start meeting men (not boys) who you will actually be able to trust.

Answer 2

yeah it does take time and i know i have the same problem but i think as you get older you can trust them more. i just guess you got to believe in them is all

Answer 3

WELL THERE IS MEN OUT THERE WHO CAN BE TRUST WORTHY. NOT EVERY MAN IS OUT THERE FOR SEXUAL ROLES LIKE YOU HAVE SAID.SOME MEN ARE OUT THERE FOR LOVE AND NOT ONLY s*x OR SOMETHING.ITS JUST THE LUCK YOU GET AND GETTING THE RIGHT ONE. I MEAN YOU NEVER KNOW TILL YOU TRY.I MEAN U HAVE SAID U HAVENT HAD A BF EVER.SO I GUESS YOU DONT REALLY KNOW. BUT IT MAY CHANGE OVER TIME OF HOW YOU SEE MEN.IM ONE OF THOSE GUYS WHO COULD BE TRUSTWORTHY. I KNOW

Answer 4

Ur right theres alot of guys out there that is their only goal, but u have 2 b a little more open or u might miss out on the best thing in ur life. just date for a while and if the feeling is there go for it but if its not and he's pushy tell him 2 F-off. There r decent honest guys out there. u might find that someone right away and yes it could take time but not taking that chance u might let mr right get away. Good luck sweety.

Answer 5

You need some serious time out to get yourself together.