I can't/won't break down an cry during my theraphy sessions?

Question

My therapist has told me that the things i had told her are the saddest things she has heard in her room, but i just can't let go and cry although i want to...as it will serve no purpose so why do it?.......

She assures me i am in a totally protected environment and to let go....but i can't........I would feel embarrassed, needy, looking for attention, looking like some thing to be pitied......I just can't do it even though we have discussed how 'irrelevant' these feelings are.

I guess I'm asking for advice or others experience.........

Answer 1

As the old song says..."it's OK to cry if you want to"

But you don't have to to please others.

Maybe your therapists thinks you should become a quivering mass of dispair to be healed, but I think a therapist who insists on this is just a control freak with god Complexes.

Your choice, do what YOU are comfortable with.

Answer 2

It helps to cry because it will let your feelings that have been building up in you out

Answer 3

its ok that you dont cry. some people use different methods of letting out emotions, if crying isnt your thing, dont worry about it! just find another way of channeling your emotions out of your system! if u keep everything bottled up inside, you will feel worse, so kick a door, scream and yell, or just write a story about a character thats dealing what your dealing with. trust me, it helps!!!!