I can hear my parents arguing again - what do i do

Question

- they dont love eachother, i dont even think theres a friendship

- my dad gets drunk every night, argues with anything with a pulse when he has alcohol in his system

hence why my dad & mum are having a huge row now

- if im honest, i dont really love my dad. I know that sounds harsh but hes done nothing for me to gain him that respect except for the single sperm that created me.

Answer 1

U need to sit them both down (when dad's sober) and tell them how u feel. Like an intervention maybe

Answer 2

you cannot control what they do. Try your best to remove yourself from the situation. And learn from what there doing. And realize that you dont want to be that way. And there fighting in no way, reflects on there love for you. Even though you feel like it. I hope that helps. I've been there, and its gut wrentching.

Answer 3

lead pipe round his nogging

dig hole in garden plant him

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your problem. I can imagine you're in a very difficult place. Have you talked to your mom alone, when you're dad's not around? What does she say about all this. Let her know how this is affecting you. I don't think it would be wise to try and intervene when they're having a fight, especially when your dad's been drinking. It might make it worse, and you don't need to be caught up more of this. I can't blame you for feeling the way you do. If you can't get any good response from your mom, seek out another responsible adult. Maybe a couselor at your school? I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

just sit in your room for a while c if they stop arguing and if they dont go in and do something

Answer 6

if suicide is the onlly issue have him admitted in a hospital for physic evaluation.. call the police.. they know exactly how to handle it..

Answer 7

wow, tough break. I know first hand that its hard to ignore the fact that your parents fight constantly. I got lucky and my parents finally divorced, then all was right with the world. I dont know what you can do about it right now but I can say that eventually things will work themselves out. One day you will be able to move out at the very least. Just take it as a lesson to learn from.

Answer 8

If it's night, like it is here, tells them to stfu so you can sleep.

Discuss it with them when your dad's not drunk and if he won't discuss it tell your mum to leave him.

Or get family group therapy.

Answer 9

that does not sound good :(

My parents would argue all the time when they were together. Just go take a walk or go see a mate to get yourself away from the negative energy. Talk to your mum and let her know how u feel when the time is right

Answer 10

Go to a friends house to get him off your mind.

Answer 11

WOW. Sounds exactly like my family. To be honest when my parents are like that I dont do are say anything, cos I know if I do they are going to turn on me and they are already mad so its not gonna be good on my part. My advise would be to either go somewhere where you cant hear them or leave the house.

Answer 12

Oh no, that really sucks. I somewhat know how it feels to hear parents fighting constantly.

Just lay low, do your own thing and make sure you take good care of YOU. Try to block it out as much as you can.

Maybe when the air clears, and when all are calm and sober, talk with them about how you feel when they fight around you all the time... but if you're not comfortable to do that yet, then just keep busy and do things that make you happy.

Answer 13

it is hard but you cant do anything just try to do something that makes you happy.....all the best luv....

Answer 14

Ask for help. I know it's hard but if your mom don't do it you have to. I grew up with an alcoholic father and I felt like I didn't love him either. Thank God he stopped drinking about 10 years ago and I now realize I do love him. Never the less...if he ain't doing anything for you and is just being a "waste of space" get the authorities involved. He will be forced to sober up and get help. And there are many resources out there for you and your mom if you need it or to keep him away from you guys. The arguing has to stop before something terrible happens. Don't ignore it...do something about it. And please don't warn him either just do it. If he has threatened to kill himself he definitely needs help.

Good Luck

Answer 15

T___T

*sob*

I just feel like giving you a biiiig hug!

I think that you should do something with your mom...

you 2 should go out and do something, have some mother-and-daughter time...go shopping or see a movie or something.

Anything that can just relieve you 2 from thinking about your dad...

anything that'll just give you a chance to get out of the house.

that's probably the best thing you can do.

Maybe talk to a friend about the situation too...someone you can trust.

Answer 16

Get rid of  him you all do not need no darn grown man drinking and behaving like a savage, your mom can do better she needs to toughing up and kick this man to the curve, without doing anything about this matter it will only get worst.

Answer 17

Stick a sharp object in him.

Answer 18

Are there stable relatives you could stay with?

Answer 19

i know she may be scared but tell her its affecting u and its hurting u. get him to go to a rehab center. ur mom needs to tell him that its either the life of booze and going no where or his family. i used to not love my dad but we're working on it. let ur mom know

Answer 20

Sounds like an AA intevention is highly needed. Once your father is of the booze, things will change for everybody. Talk to your mom and contact your local AA chapter (they are in the phone book, find one in your area and they will be happy to assist). If your father refuses to get help, try Al-Alon teen and go yourself. You will learn many ways to cope and possibly help your father. There is a progam for your mother also, so she can learn how to deal with an alcholic. It won't be easy but if you and your mother really love him, get him the help he needs.

Best of luck to you.l

Answer 21

You're in a very difficult situation right now.

The best thing to do is not get in the way of your parents arguing. Put on music, and turn it up loud.

You cannot of course avoid the issue, but it will prevent you from retaining unpleasant experiences.

Your dad sounds like he has a lot of problems, and perhaps a drinking one too. This is going to be hard, but he should seek help. You might not say you love your Dad, but people love their Fathers..just the way it is. He might do things that make you dislike him.

Get him help..don't throw him out into the cold...

Answer 22

I'm a recovered alcoholic who went into re-hab in 2006 for three months, and joined AA.

This is an extremely difficult thing to do but this is where your dad needs to go.

My suggestion would be to talk to your mum about it, it might not be too late, I know many marriages that have been saved like this.

What your mun needs to do is to go to an Al anon meeting, this is a similar organisation to AA but designed to help partners of alcoholics, it helps them to understand the alcoholics problem, because it's a disease, and like other diseases can be controlled. It will also help her to try and get your dad to go to an AA meeting.

You might consider going to an Al ateen meeting, this again is similar to al anon, but for the children of an alcoholic, with the same aims.

I include links for all three organisations, if you need any advice, Email me. Each link will tell you where there is a meeting in your area.

I don't exaggerate when I say you could be instrumental in saving your father's life and your parents marriage, it was my son and his wife that saved mine.

EDIT: Please do not view him as a waste of space, he's your father for God's sake, I was considered a 'waste of space' until I got into AA as I've described, the doctor who examined me there on my first day, nearly two years ago, said that I would have been dead within a year if I didn't stop drinking.

I had a check-up with him last month and he said that my liver and all other organs had returned to normal.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!

Answer 23

Your mum is only enabling your dad's bad behaviour, and this will only continue as long as she lets him stay in the house. He's probably threatening to kill himself, right? Drunks and addicts are selfish that way, but you can bet on your granny's life your dad won't kill himself intentionally.

There is an organisation that helps family of drunks and addicts cope with the situation and get themselves out of it, and I suggest going to the telephone book and phoning the AA and asking them for it. Your mother and yourself can at least help the two of you, but your father has to want to stop drinking in order for the AA to help him.

Good luck with this.  

Answer 24

if you have any friends you can stay with from time to time that would be good for you, you poor mum needs to stop worrying about what he will do if she kicks his sorry *** out, he is a waste of tax payers money and your mum should kick him out, your home would be so much happier if he was not there. i know just how you feel, i had to live like that with my ma and da for 15 years and it was so bad but you and your mum can stop it if you get him out of your life's,  good luck hope things get better soon for you and your family

Answer 25

I know how you feel. I actually hate my dad. I wish my mum would leave him and just kick him out of the house and we could get on with our lives. I really hate my dad.

You should take to your parents and tell them how you are feeling about this.

I don't and can't because with my dad, TO HIM, HE IS ALWAYS RIGHT, nobody ******* else matters or nobody elses opinions matter. If you say something that he doesn't agree with, no matter how pointless, he goes off the head

(yeah, i know i shouldnt be saying this because you have a problem but i just want to tell somebody)

And him and my sister had a huge row last night and he ****** HIT her. She hit him back and then he hit her back again. Like h**l a 16 year old girl can hurt him, it was just the fact she did it and then he went and ****** HIT her about 3 times. He also hit my poor dog that same night because he was growling at him/...like, my dog didnt want him near him( i can understand why) so he growled then my dad hit him

there is BILLIONS(and thats NOT going ott) more things i could write but i really cnat be assed..i hate my dad period.