I can understand two men or two women together, BUT three men or three women together?? ?

Question

ok, so i understand people being g*y, bisexual and L*****n. i am L*****n myself, but ... theres this thing where instead of it being like 2 men together there would be 3 men together?? um im having such a hard time comprehending that. like i would think someone would be totally selfish to have to have 2 other partners. like one isnt enough for you? and you kno that you are going to like one more then the other. i think just the threesome things should stay for s*x only lol. i could never love two people in that way, and i could never share the one i love with another person in that way either. the thought really disgusts me, just like that polygamy thing... please clue me in on why people would want to have two other partners now? and wat is this called???

Answer 1

Some people are polyamorous and see no problems with this.  Some people think that monogamy  is an antiquated concept that is hard to apply in actual reality.

Some people are more free with intimacy and s*x.  Some people don't view s*x as something special between two people, but rather as a fun physical response to share freely with other people who feel the same.

I think our society puts too much depth and emotional connection with s*x.  They teach sexual conservacy, but I say, as long as it's safe, sane, and consentual..I see nothing wrong with spreading youself around.    

Answer 2

The more the merrier possibly?

Answer 3

Polyamory is the correct term, I think.  

You make quite a number of assumptions here, and as a person who has been in a triad (two women, one man, equal partnership) relationship for 15 years now, I'd like to help educate you.

You start off by saying that one would have to be completely selfish to want two or more partners.  I honestly take offense to that statement.  I would suggest that it's selfish to ration love and set artificial limits on it.  "One isn't enough for you?"  For nine years, it was, but we met and fell in love with this other woman, and asked her to join us.  

"And you know you are going to like one more than the other."  Really?  I know no such thing.  I love both of them deeply and passionately, and certainly differently, but not one more than another.  They are not interchangeable, are not merely toys that one plays with.  Each is a person and completely unique.  I kn ow that they each feel much the same about the other two of us, as well.  

"I think threesome things should stay for s*x only."  OK, you have the right not to engage in committed or serious multiple partner relationships.  I don't think anyone's pushing you to go against your opinion, are they?  But isn't your argument rather the same as people who argue that s*x and love and living together should be kept only between men and women?  In other words, aren't you being just a wee bit hypoctritical?  Again, you have the right to your opinion, but I don't think you speak for all people.

"The thought really disgusts me."  Interesting.  Please see above regarding hypocricy.  

"Please clue me in..."

Alright.  The more you love, the more you can love and the more deeply.  Monogamy is in some part at least, an outgrowth of male-dominated religions and the church, just as the prohibitions against homosexuality are.  Polyamory is not in direct oposition to human nature.  While there's certainly reason for pair bonding and monogamy to be the norm when it comes to heterosexual child rearing necessities, I think you'll find that polyamory, or at least serial monogamy is common.  Many of us (in fact, judging by divorce rates and rates of cheating, a majority) of people end up loving more than one person in their life, and sometimes love more than one person at a time, but that falls outside the bounds of social acceptance with regards to many marriages.  

Respectfully, I accept your opinion and your right to express it.  Just as, I'm sure, you accept the right of straight people to express their disgust at the "un-natural" event of lesbianism.  I personally support the rights of homosexuals to marry and to adopt or have children however they want.  I also find nothing about love or s*x between consenting adults to be disgusting.  

I hope I've helped to clear up some of your questions.

Regards,

Chance  

Answer 4

Well I have a boyfriend and we're looking for another girl to be with us. Not a 3 some, a relationship. No, this is not selfish and no we are not sick and no its not polygamy and no it's not disgusting. A relationship like this is the highest consciousness of its kind. I think it's absolutely beautiful.

Answer 5

Four men, one senior citizen, two transvestites, Three girls, one under age, a L*****n, and two senior citizens... Party on!

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with that if 3 or more people are wanting to have a relationship and can make it work then good on them no one is putting a gun to the 3rd persons head and saying "be in a relationship with us or we shoot"

If the opportunity presented itself to me i would give it a go

Answer 7

... The only reason I can think of to why they would do something like that is so they can get more anniversary gifts and c**p... And threesomes without going to a club to look for a willing volunteer... Plus, I doubt the relationship lasts very long, it's probably just a phase.

Answer 8

3-some?

Some people think that more is better.

Answer 9

technically 'polygamy' means to marry more than one wife. 'Polyandry' would be marrying more than one husband.

The word you're looking for is 'polyamorous', meaning in a relationship with more than one person (not necessarily marriage, and not necessarily the same or even opposite s*x).

You're conditioned (as a presumed 'westerner') to be a little set-off by polyamory. It's just not something you've witnessed in your culture (and indeed as you pointed out, it conflicts with a basic concept of self-importance in our culture), but just know that there are some indigenous people in Africa and New Guinea that look at our system of monogamy and think "What is wrong with these people? How on earth do they raise a family well with only two parents!?

Also forget that our huge emphasis on 'love' is not necessarily universal. In many places, romantic relationships are forged for an economic or tribal purpose, and later on 'love' becomes a very convenient consequence of the relationship, not a cause for it.