I cant belive <span title="this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!">this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...</span>

Question

ive now asked my question a few times and no ones answering Why?

i have a child to my ex,and he has another son to someone else who i tend to look after ,now since holidays are her i have him every few days which i dont mind at all as hes a lovely lad.My problem is my ex just drops him off and doesnt ask or say thanks.im cooking most nights so there always enough for him ,rarely they will phone their dad up for a kfc and he will get them one.My problem doesnt ask if anyone else would like one as i have two other children which arent his .i dont find this fair, Is he being tight??? i mean he picks his child up and drops him sraight here when hes the one supposed to be spending time with not me . What do you think????

Answer 1

No it is not fair.  It is good that you are giving your time and care.  But, you need to speak up more (it does not sound as if you have).  You need to tell him what you are telling us.  He needs to understand how his actions are being seen.  It is not good to have a bias w/ kids.  I think he just assumes it is OK because you let it happen.  You need to put your foot down.  He can&#039;t just drop at will and he should always speak to you first.  If he is buying for 1 he needs to buy for all.  Talk to him, he may listen.

Answer 2

What do you think????

Answer 3

I would inform the other child&#039;s mother of this.  I would also make sure that she doesn&#039;t mind that her child visit his/her brother.  If not then you are been put in a really bad spot.  I would also inform him that a phone call before had is required incase you are out of town or have guest

Answer 4

The child is his responsibility not yours - you have to be strong and tell him no. he cannot expect this from you - it is unfair - especially as you are feeding his child - you have enough with your own... Tell him you are no longer looking after his responsibilities! Just make sure you tell him away from the children!

Answer 5

Omg what are you doing, tell him to bugger of! he isnt your responsability, its his child, sure look after him if you want to but he need to be reminded that the kid is his and nothing to do with you. I couldnt do what you do, tbh. When he drops the kid of, just say like wow no, we havent had an arrangement, im going out, sorry, look after him yourself mateyyy!

Answer 6

i think he&#039;s taking the p**s, and it&#039;s totally out of oreder to bring his 2 kids a kfc and not your 2,

have you spoke to him about this?