I cant control my temper!!!!!!!!

Question

Im really sweet and I get along with everybody but........ I have a hectic job and schedule that when Im on my time I dont want to be bothered with anything!!!!! Im always tired (BF comes over at night) and I loose my temper easily and say mean things to people that I feel bad afterwards. It used to be really bad that i was a total ****** but Ive done a lot of work . HOnestly. Now its just those few times and random outburdt I need to control. My whole family has anger issues....but we all get along, thank god. How can I be more calm?

Answer 1

maybe you should have a relaxation day. bring a friend/your bf to the mall, the park, take a bubble bath or just sleep in. whatevr you find most relaxing. then maybe sign up with a therapist about your temper. if you have no time to do any of this, try to listen to relaxing yoga music or ballads or perhaps r&b to calm down during the day. so be happy, try to be positive, tell yourself that you wont have an outbursts for a week, and if you can pull it off, go out for ice cream or something to celebrate, then you can do that every week. if you fail, you should vacuum your home. reward, and punishment. you would basically be training yourself to be calmer. remind yourself to think before you speak. hope i helped and good luck! :]

Answer 2

slow down before you lose him

Answer 3

Think about what you're going to say before you say it. Take some deep breaths. If you do slip, tell the person that you feel bad about it and explain about how bad your day went.

Also, nothing calms stress like a good old-fashioned bubble bath. :D  

Answer 4

wow, you have a lot in common with my mom, and so does your family

whoa

Answer 5

plan things better,Im sure 24 hours is long enough so do stuff BEFORE 9 am and others AFTER 5 pm and take atleast 15 minutes/daily to do simple breathing/yoga-exercises which you can do at home ......you will feel better soon and plan your time also more efficient with boyfriend and other familie-members.....Im sure you have sunday off to RELAX then switch off all phones and computers.....and give your mind a break.Just tell yourself to say simple NO sometimes