I cant get my six year old to potty

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I'm

so worried because i cant make my son use the potty ive tried bribing him , threating to take away his toys , talked nice to him , have beeforce fullll (tried to sit him down on it) but i cant do anything... he says he scared.. so ivactuallyly tooken apart a toilet to show him whats inside how it works and why it makes the sounds it makes , but STILL he will not use the potty... ive tried taking it slow meaning first i just try to sit him down withouacutelyly doing anything but he still refuses , he is okay with peeing in it but he will not for toys , money or candy he will not go do a "poopie" in thtoiletet , i dont think its a physical problem because hes always fine in diapers , ive even tried finger pupets.. books , videos ive even had my 9 yearold try to do it with him and convince him its "cool" but nothing works hes so stubborn what can i do?? please help!!

Answer 1

i persanlly got locked in the bahtroom till i went when i was a kid......but that was the late 60's ...youd get areted for that now http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 2

I got my DD to use the potty by taking diaper away and putting her in panties. Told her she cannot pee or p**p in her panties. She had a few accidents, but was trained in a few days, 6 is way too old to be in diapers. You have to be consistent. Don't threaten to take away toys if you are not going to do it. Say what you mean and follow through.  

Answer 3

I would consult his doctor. 6 years old is way to old to be still using diapers. You could use a potty chair to have him go in first, and then transition to the big potty. First have him sit on the toilet with clothes on and try it over and over again so he knows there is nothing scary about it. Just work on it every day until he does it. But if it continues I would call the doctor.  

Answer 4

This is indeed a long time to keep a child in diapers and frankly, you will have a more difficult time training him as a result. Does he have any developmental or learning disabilities? I empathize for your son and you - there are some difficult times ahead.

I understand that your child means the world to you, and you feel as though you are doing good by letting him have his way, but in fact this is causing more harm. Without being mean or bossy, you need to put your foot down and just say, "this is how things will be". Start with teaching him to clean himself during changes. He will have to get his own diaper, wipe his own bottom, and dispose of the soiled diaper in the trash. He will then have to wash his hands and then get dressed.

Give him an incredible, draumatic sense of pride and accomplishment in getting it right, but don't admonish him for any mistakes. I'm sure you do love him, and I'm sure you give him lots of praise. Now it is more important to do so.

Hi is likely to face issues with bullying in school for being in diapers. You should discuss this with the school nurse before school starts, to make sure that he has a place he can go to change himself in privacy. His diapers and potty training supplies should be kept there. If he should p**p, he should go and change right away, before the odor alerts the other children and he is made fun of.

As he progresses through his potty training, reward him well with stickers, an occasion toy or book, or even a video. Keep a "potty chart" to show his progress and review it with him several times each day.

Also, given his age and the difficulties, this may warrent a call to the pediatrician and perhaps some councling from a continence nurse. At the least, you may want to talk to some nannies who have experience in potty training - they may be able to help tutor him in that area. This may also aleviate some of the "blame" off of you, at least in his eyes. If he is with a nanny who demands he learns to potty, and your out, you can always come "save" him later in the day.

You two have a rough, rocky road ahead; and frankly, it is one that may not end. He is near an age where it will be very difficult to fully potty train. After a certain point in life, the body locks in its habits; and if the potty habit is to just "go", then it may remain regardless of how much effort is put in. Are you ready to have a child who grows old and lives the rest of his life in a nappy? If not, you need to act now and act quickly.

Cheers!

Answer 5

Does he have a history of constipation problems?    Has he ever seen a pediatric gastroenterologist?   He may have encropresis.   He may need some medical intervention

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/general...

In a nutshell, his colon may be very stretched out (from holding it in for long periods of time in his past and recently) and weak.   If this is what's going on then he doesn't have as much control as he is suppose to have.

Answer 6

You need to talk to the pediatrician.  Six years old is way too old to still be in diapers.  Also, try just putting him in underwear - a couple accidents in underwear tend to teach kids quickly that they need to use the toilet  :)