I cant get my three year old to bed?

Question

i cant get my three year old to go to bed we have tried everything and we are now exhausted he cries constantly from 7.00pm every night he has his tea i bath him and i take him to bed and read to him,then i give him a kiss and come away he then jumps out of bed i put him back and say goodnight and it goes on like this for hours and then he will start with screaming and sobbing and when he usally falls asleep about 2.00am he is soon awake again about 3.30am and climbing into bed to be put back in his own room and it all starts again.iv had enough and dont know what else to do he used to sleep in his own room all night untill he started to sleep over at my patners mams when he was 2 and a half and now he just wont go to bed i have stopped him sleeping out untill i can get this under control any ideas anyone?

Answer 1

I know that all 3 year olds are different, but I have a 3 year old son who would always wake up at night and come to our room and refuse to go back in his bed. I have just recently started using a "sticker chart" with him. If he stays in is bed all night he gets a sticker, and when he gets 15 stickers he gets to go to the store and pick out a toy. It has been working great. He gets all excited in the morning and says that he did it and then asks to put his sticker on his chart.

Another idea just in case that doesn't work, they make those plastic door handle covers that are baby proof, I'm not sure what they are called, but I bought them at WalMart in the baby section for about $2. You might have to hear him cry for a couple of nights because he can't get out of his room, but I think it's worth it. I never had to use them because the sticker chart works for us. So, good luck.

Oh, and maybe you should try letting him stay up until 8, I think that 7 is a little early for a 3 year old. Let him run around for an extra hour outside now that it stays light longer. Letting all that extra energy out couldn't hurt, we know 3 year olds have a lot of it.

Answer 2

Tea has natural caffiene in it...

replace that with milk.

turn off the lights. and close the door.

Let him scream and wail all he wants to but don't keep putting him BACK into bed.

explain the consequences.

He's three and old enough to understand.

Answer 3

Wow that is so awful. You must be exhausted.

I remember when my son was around that age,he didn't want to sleep in his bed. He then went thru a period where he came in to our room and woke us up every night and I had to walk him back into his room and re-tuck him in.

After awhile, this became very tiring. I finally made a fluffy place for him on the carpet next to our bed and said if he was scared, he could come in and lie there but not to wake us up anymore. He did it for a couple of months and then he realized his bed was more comfy than the floor and started sleeping in his bed on his own.

I think you need to try different things until they get it. Just don't let them sleep in your actual bed or else you will never get sleep and it will be a different bad habit to break.

Change what you're doing, it's not working. Good luck.

Answer 4

Stop feeding him sugar and giving him artificial infused foods and beverages. he will sleep like a baby, a healthy baby.

Answer 5

somethings in the tea!

Answer 6

Don't give him tea!! Especally not with sugar.

Just put him in his bed, turn of the light and close the door.

If he comes out of the room. Put him back.

Answer 7

Try reading a book before bedtime, the kid's love it, it's educational, and it does seem to tire them out, also giving them a sence of security. I was like that when I was little, raised by my nana, because mamma died when I was a baby, nana used to lie down with me until I went to sleep. My problem was I was afraid of a monster under my bed, her being there helped me and my fears a lot. Good Luck....Bella

Answer 8

I have the same problem with my 3 year old.  Try to give him some warm milk before he goes to sleep or take him for a walk after dinner.  Sometimes it helps.

Answer 9

Are you giving him caffeinated tea @ bed time????