I cant get over my ex who broke up with me?

Question

And it's really cuasing me serious depression, he was all I had to come to when I was down, seemingly, I had no parents to turn too at the time, and I live on my own, and work for a living, at a very young age of 17, though I am turning 18, and have gone through so much.

He was the first person I have had sexual intercourse with, and I lsot my virginity too, he broke up with me 1 month and a half ago, and we were together for 4 years.

We were angaged, but suddenly, he told me he couldnt take the fact of me accidently pregnant, and that I felt like a sisiter.

It's not that Im stilkl in love with him, it's the fact that I lsot my virginity too him, gained 15 lbs from the depressiona dn stressed he cuased me, and the fact that it happened so fast.

Fot a moment I felt loved and taken care of, and I felt so happy, I was engaged..

And than my heart got stomped on and I didnt hear from he for 2 weeks( 1-2 months ago) and got it shoved abck in my face...

I cant stop thinking about how he used to make me smile, and laugh, how he held me, how he said he loved me...I can't help but to cry even now..it hurts so much inside and out.

I feel like I cant even date anymore, becuase Im afraid of it happening again.

Plus I gained like 15-20 lbs from the depression, so I don't feel myself anymore.

Was this all my fualt?

Answer 1

No I don't think it was your fault, it sounds like time has taken its toll and that he has got bored, i have found, in all my previous relationships that after a while, it does get more difficult to make things work and you do have to work at it, but to me it sounds that was to much like hard work. its always hard to get over your first true love, my first and i finished 10 years ago and even now, i still think about her with fond memories but sometimes that's just life as for the depression side of things, go and see your doctor, pills may help for a while just to pick you back up again till your on your feet and able to cope, and if the weight thing bothers you that much, try dieting for a bit or join a gym, try to keep yourself busy and it will help to take your mind of things.i hope this all helps and i wish you the very best for the future. chin up it will get better, just takes time. aslo please be careful, when your down its easy to do drastic things to try and win your partner back, my advice is give it time and think about what your doing, if his not interested there are others that will be, get out more, socialize and see where it takes you

Answer 2

1ST THING THAT U CAN DO IS TAKE BIRTH CONTROL!!!! THAT SHOULD MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER...I HAVE THE SAME ISSUE AS U EVN AFTER 1 & A HALF YEARS......

WE BOTH ARE IN THE SAME BOAT EXCEPT THAT IM STAYING WITH MY PARENTS & WORKING.....DUE TO MY EX MY MUM TRANSFERED ME 2 INDIA WHERE MY DAD LIVES BUT STILL I HAVE ASKED MY FRIEND TO CONTACT HIM 4 ME COZ I LOVE HIM TOO MUCH STILL......

IT'S UP2 THE MAN IN THE END IF HE WANTS U BACK OR NOT!!!!

TRY TO TAKE YOUR MIND OF THINGS BY DOING OTHER THINGS OR SEEING OTHER PEOPLE!!!!

IM NOW DATING OTHRE TO TAKE MY MIND OF MY EX!!!! TRY IT.....LOOK IF YOUR MAN LOVES U HE SHOULD WNAT TO TAKE U BACK IF NOT U GOT TO LET GO OF HIM NO MATTER WHAT