I cant god d**n take this anymore...?

Question

im so sick of living with my parents.

i dont know how much more c**p i can take from them but its getting to the point where i want to leave.

i have 'emo' hair, fck it, i have MY OWN style of hair. and my parents constantly remind me that they dont like it. they tell me i should of been born a girl, they tell me im probably a ****** (g*y, they use ****** tho)

i wear tight jeans - that makes me g*y also....

i dropped out of college like months ago because i realised i was doing the wrong subjects and it was too late to change and still get a good grade. im starting again in september tho.

but they always say now that my life is a fck up and that im never gonna get anywhere because im a drop out.

i love using the net and myspace and talking to friends on msn, i go out sometimes but not a lot. so my parents say that i have no life, no friends and that im a loser. they say im always negative but seriously wtf!?!? how can someone be positive when the place they grow up in is so bad??

everytime they argue with me my dad always threatens to kick me out, or just kick the c**p out of me and im tired of it. i want to move out, but im 17 only about £2k in the bank and my friends still live with their folks so i cant live with them

who can i talk to or what can i do to move out? i live in the UK btw.

Answer 1

With the level of maturity you show it is doubtful if you would cope in the real world.

No one will pay you for ditching college or going on line.

If being positive depends on your environment you are not yet ready to move on/

Keep working at it.

Answer 2

It sounds like your parents are not tuned in to you at all - which is such a shame, as so many young adults of your age are out making trouble for others and into drugs etc.

I think your best course of action is to prove them wrong.  I kind of think there is a limit to the amount of time you should be shut up in your room on your pc, however, it seems that so many youngsters do this today that you are not alone.

Cruel to call you a loser for it though.  Why not try to get a job to run alongside your college course? That way it will get you out of the house more and you can earn some money to put in with your savings. Then, when your college course is over and you have your qualifications you will have enough money to put down a deposit on a place of your own, solving all your problems.

My guess is you will get on fine with your parents one day, they seem to have their own view on youngsters and sadly you are in that catagory.  Show them what you are made of!

Good luck.

:)

Answer 3

Seek professional counseling so you can learn to take responsibility for yourself.

Answer 4

theres nothing wrung with emos i think theres sum cute emo guys out there , im into that kind of stuff too , i move out of folks at 18, ur parents just need to accept who u r, and allow u to make ur own decisons and mistakes ur not a child nemre , i know loads of emo friends and ppl there not g*y, lol f you want to mve out u need to either gu to local authorities and put ur name on lst there for when u turn 18., or look int a bedsit for bout 50pw includin bills ,, or even ask a family member to live with them till ur 18 etc

ok lol

emos rule lol

Answer 5

Let's see... you have a roof over your head... food, no rent to pay... no responsibilities... yeah, you have it real tough!! What you need is for both you and your parents to get psychiatric help. If what you say is true, both of you are at fault. Take that 2K you have in the bank and use it for therapy. That would be the responsible, intelligent, adult thing to do. You want to be a successful adult? Take the first step.

Answer 6

Firstly, forget about what your parents are saying to you. If you constantly try to seek approval from others, you will get nowhere.

As for moving out....DO IT. Posting a question on yahoo isnt going to help your situation. Im sorry if i come across harsh but its true. you have 2K in the bank...that is more than some people have had their whole lives, 2K is more than enough to go rent a room somewhere, in the meantime look for a job, at a friggn supermarket if need be. If it is THAT bad at home, then you wont mind working there.

Go ahead and make the leap, but whatever you do, dont leave on a bad note with your folks, no matter how harsh they seem, they will be the ONLY ones that will be there for you when push comes to shove. Dont be too hard on them, because they are speaking only from their viewpoint, not everyone in the whole world.

If you think you know what you are doing is right, then do it, do not seek approval if you feel you are not hurting anyone.

Lastly, move out, use the 2K you have to rent a room, whilst you are there, look HARD for a job to make sure you can keep the room rented in the future. OR do it the other way around, ie: get a job NOW and then go rent a room.

One thing is for certain though, you have to MAKE it work if you WANT it to work.

Good luck buddy.

Answer 7

OMG i dont know youre parents but already i dont like them .i have 4 sons and i am proud of all of them.they are all so different from each other thats what makes them individuals.if you want long hair thats youre choice tight jeans youre choice and so on.perhaps youre parents should look on the internet and take a look at all the different kind of people on there and start seeing that the worlds society has made a massive change since they were young.you are a normal teenager who is trying to find his way in life thats all. next year you could be a punk the year after across dresser who knows .perhaps youre parents should start excepting you for who you are before they lose you.as for youre life at home get some professional advice.there are people out there who can help you as you are still young.try talking to a teacher at college or even phone social services thats what they are there for your welfare.hope everything works out for you.remenber be youre self not what youre parents want you to be.good luck

Answer 8

whoa dude CALM YOUR *** DOWN before you have a heart atack

Answer 9

I know how you feel, really I do.

I hated my upbringing, and dreamt of moving out from the age of 13. Basically you have two options:

1. Continue your education at college and put up with it.

2. Get a job and move out.

You can't have it both ways, so it depends on how serious you are about your education and how much you want to move out. I chose to move out. I got a part time job working 6pm-9pm so I could save up enough money for a deposit on private rent property. Then I got a full time job at an insurance company earning only £880 a month and paying £380 of which on rent. I moved out at 17 and haven't looked back since. I'm now 20 and am getting married in 4 months and my parents and I now have a good relationship. I think they felt guilty that I moved out so young.

I live in the UK too. It's your decision.  

Answer 10

Don't really know what to suggest other than keep your head Down at college and save your money untill you can afford to move out, otherwise why not go on that site they always go on about at college..think its called connexions or something they can give advice on moving out

x Good Luck

Answer 11

Speak to a college adviser in sept. Good Luck, your parents sound very negative and down on you and have a very unhealthy attitude! Don't be like them!

Answer 12

hey,

      I understand where you are coming from I faced the same problems when I was 17.

But let me tell you that your parents are so hard on you because they have invested their time and money on raising you, i know its their duty, but like any investment they expect you to give them some return on it.

Not monetary returns but things like giving them respect, showing some concern, listening but not necessarily following their advice, getting good grades, showing them that you have your priorities straight and you know what you want to become in life.

These things will improve your relationship with your parents so try and work on them, if it still doesn't improve you can move out, but i am sure it will.

I was just like you when i was 17 and years later now i realize that i was wrong to have moved out because at the end of it all you will realize that your parents are the only 2 people in the world that care about you.

Your friends will be there for the good times but when they feel things are going bad they will take off. Trust me on that one, even i didn't believe it when i was 17 but its true.

So prioritize, get your life in order, let your parents know you mean business and you have a goal and they will leave you alone.

As far as comments about your clothes and hair style they wont really care once you get your life on track cause then they know you can handle yourself by yourself.

Try it, trust me it will work!

A decision taken in haste right now, can never be undone and can ruin your life so think it through, whatever you decide to do.

Hope this helps, best of luck!  

Answer 13

Don't be too hasty....you will be able to leave home soon enough.

Just realise that your situation is not uncommon.

Very often different generations don't see eye to eye.

You sound like a determined character, colourful and strong minded.

Your parents probably find your 'individuality' too much too cope with.

One day you may be a parent yourself, you can learn from your parents mistakes and make sure you try to understand how your children feel.

Stick with it for now and try not to antagonise the situation, hope things work out for you in the future...all the best !!!

Answer 14

dude your in the same sh.it as I am in now too!

Answer 15

Wow sounds like you have a hard time !! prove them all wrong by keeping your head down and study hard, be who you want to be and not what they want you to be, good luck.

Answer 16

I'll tell you how to manage your problems in a successful manner.

First, get you head in the right place, and get a grip on people for what they REALLY are.

Not all parents are perfect.  Correction: There are NO perfect parents.

I can tell from your choice of words, and the way you describe your Dad's reactions to your attitude, that he is at least emotionally abusive.  And your response to his emotional abuse is rebellion.

His abuse doesn't work.

Your rebellion doesn't work.

But you already know that.

Here's what does work.  Realization and acceptance, and planning.

1.  Realize that you CAN NOT change your parents.

2.  Realize, with all of your anger, you're going to wind up EXACTLY like them, if you don't change something.

3.  Now, know you can't change them, but you

CAN change your reaction to them, in a positive way that will benefit YOU 100%.

KNOW that I speak from Experience with abusive parents, and I survived successfully, with out all the "drama" you express.

The KEY is to not take upon yourself THEIR attitudes, and abuses.  That's their character.  Don't own that, or have it affect any moment of your life.  If you do, you are giving away your PERSONAL POWER.

Take back your personal power, but letting certain things roll off you, back across the floor and back onto them.

Your parents concerns actually are real, but they way they express to you is through anger and abuse.

Take away their anger and abuse, and you just have two parents that are worried because you withdrew for ALL of your subjects.  You could have withdrew from half, and focused on the other half...but that's water under the bridge.

Express to your parents, WITHOUT yelling what I'll give you.

In fact, NO MATTER what they ever do, or yell

DON'T YOU yell ever.  It is amazing how it will affect them long term.

Say:  I'm not going to yell one word, so pay attention.

And in a normal tone of voice tell them that

you will get a job until next semester that will help pay for some expenses, and then you WILL go back to school.

Period."

End it there.  No name calling or assiging blame, or expressing anger.

If they counter with yelling, ignore it, shrug your shoulders and tell them. "You will see".  No more words.  Keepy your words sparce.

Also, it will help a lot to get off the computer and do a few chores around the house to help out.

And here's one that will confound them:

Whistle and act happy, and STOP swearing.

In life, YOU are responsible for YOU.

Don't ever give away your power by argueing.

Be self-controlled and confident.

When others see you this way, and they will, they will give you MUCH MORE respect.

Also, get out of the house some, even if you only go walking around or to the library or bowling alley.

It's way good for the spirit to get out with other people.

^j^