I cant let go of my close friend?

Question

I know this will sound stupid but its serious to me.

Me and my friend Mae has been having problems. so we just decided to let go of the friendship..it hurt me so bad to agree with her.

Mostly because i have trust issues and i let her in.

normally my guards will be up until i can trust them completely

but i thought i could trust her that i put my guards down and i let her in my heart. I called her sister. I know i screwed up our friendship by saying to her 'i now know who my friends are' which by the way i dont see the part where she was mad about. Thats all i said, but still. I moved this friendship too fast and now the reason i put my guards up in the first place is what happened..im left with a broken damaged heart and i dont know what to do anymore. Ive been drinking more than i should, and im not looking not so good. and im just taking it rough. I miss Mae so much and i just cant let our friendship go. Any advice? Please be serious. Most of my other friends thought it was a joke because before i was a 'hard-hearted' person and no one could hurt me. But i dont know what happened.

Answer 1

i had the exact same problem. i had this girl i was so close to that i called her soulmate and we felt so much like sisters. we litterrally went and slept at eachothers house and ate dinner or lunch there without asking, just as we would done at our own house! everything was so easy with her. we were insepearable, so close that we felt noone would ever tear us apart. but then something happened (after 3 years i still dont know for sure) and she stopped caring about me, or so she shows. she doesnt say hi when she sees me on the street and she has a totally difference life now. she;s let go of ALL her old friends and hangouts.  sometimes things we hold close to our heart and deep special tend to fall apart. sometimes its because of other people talking behind our backs, sometimes its coz of stupid fights that could be avoided and sometimes its just time. people change. she is nolonger the girl i cared about and wanted as a friend. she doesnt even LOOK like the girl i knew. literrally! she got contacts, grew her hair long, stopped dying it, let her natural color out, changed the way she put make up on, changed clothing style... everything about her is different and i understand that sometimes there's nothing we can do about it. she's happy with her new life and i was so busy being sad about my old life dying that i failed to notice i had a new life too. i have changed just as much and so i understand i shouldnt blame her for doing the same thing. its the most natural thing in the world and it means we can be stronger with the experiences we had. i no longer feel sad for the things we will no longer share, in stead i feel happy and grateful for the memories she gave me and the times we spent growing up, becoming who we are. we went through the same cercomstances, but we reacted to them differently. that isnt a bad thing. i am now happy for her. and i hope she is for me too. i will find new friends and my life will become happy again. all i have to do is be open to new people and give them a chance to get to know me. its the only way i can get over this and continue my life...

best of luck. and if you need anything, feel free to mail me.  

Answer 2

Well it sounds like to me you may have took a true friend for granted. But firstly, you have to stop drinking and tidy yourself up. She won't want to speak to you if your in a mess. I know that sounds harsh but remember she'l be upset too.  

Answer 3

dont worry, iv beeen through exactly wat u are going through

if your heart is hurting this badly, try asking her to lunch, to discuss the whole thing openly. tel her exactly how you feel

if that doesnt work, just give her some time to think aboout it, maybe tell her to call you in about 2 or 3 weeks, or however long it takes

and, as ridiculously hard as it may seem (iv been thru this, like i said) if, after a long while, if she just doesnt seem to come around, the firenship just may not have ment as much as her, which is  so hard to accept, i know.

whatever happens was ment to happen, so dont worry. even if she decides to just let go of your friendship, after a while (even a year or so) she may come around

good luck, and i hope i helped :D

Answer 4

Give Mae a call, apologize and tell her you value her friendship and do't wish to end it because of a small misunderstanding.

Answer 5

Stop drinking and show you really do love her and want to be her friend...not that you need her as a friend, which you should, but not be too needy... but that you love her and care about her.

If it must end, then so be it... you will find another who will be great in similar and different qualities.

Answer 6

Ouch...Try talking to her and tell her how you really feel, she might actually forgive you, sorry if my answer sounds dumb, well thats what I would do, or.............

Answer 7

talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. you never know maybe she is feeling the same way. when you said "i now know who my friends are" maybe she took it wrong. explain to her what you meant by that. good luck hope this helps you

Answer 8

what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You are such a girl! haha  xox

Answer 10

Just wait it out a bit, she might feel the same way. Or eventually call her and tell her your real feelings. Good Luck!