I cant live like this plz help plz?

Question

my dad hates me because i don't do what I'm told.well i do but its like this he will tell me to do the dishes then the washing then my room and make my sisters bed and empty the bins and ........ Most times i forget a few things cause I'm only 13 but if i do he threatens me.I want to run away but i have no where to go and I'm basically scared to come home sometimes. I dint want to run away cause my mum loves me but i have 1 brother and 2 sisters and there always messing up the place and things. They never get told to do anything and if they do they just ignore it. I cant ignore it as I'm the oldest and my dad says I'm the most responsible but he says will always be one step ahead of me.I love him but i cant do this.one day he slapped me cause i talked back to him and my sisters are spoilt rotten and always hit me. I cant hit back as I'm older and i would get shouted at.My brother is autistic but hes not stupid and he get told to do nothing to.Only yesterday my brother slammed the door on my face and i have a bruise on the side of my face. I feel like a little slave and i feel unwanted and im sick of it. What can i do?also i think i am suffering from depression and stress?helphe will hit me because of the slightest things tooim always in tears but i try to keep a straight face at school and act normal but i know im not

Answer 1

Poor girl.  I too grew up in an other than favorable enviroment.  I know what you are going through.  

Have you tried talking to your mom about it since you know she loves you.  I am sure she will listen and try to talk to your dad.  Maybee she can get thru to him.  I am sure your whole family is under a lot of stress with your brother being autistic; havin three younger sibilings has to be hard on you too!

I say talk to your mom.  If that dosen't work talk to a trusted friend at school who knows you and your situation;  see what they have to offer.  If that dosen't work talk to a teacher at school, or a counselor at school.  You don't have to tell them all of the details, but let them know how you are feeling and maybee they can help you work through it.

13 is way too young to be faced with such issues.  

AS a last resort you can always call your local DHHR(Department of Health and Human Resources)  I recomend this only if it gets unbearable.  Once they are involved there is no turning back, and it would be a possibility that you were removed form the home.  (And your sibilings)

Good Luck! and God Bless!

Answer 2

You should talk to an adult you trust. Maybe a teacher, or school counselor. Your dad should not be treating you like that. It is not right.

And Im sure you may not deserve it! Really you need to talk to some ASAP before it gets worse.  

Answer 3

Talk to either your school counselor or your mom.. you obviously need help i would suggest going to your school counselor first.. she or he will help you and every thing you tell him or her is confidential.. they cant say anything to anyone.. Good luck i hope things get better...

Answer 4

I think you should speak to someone in your school like your principal or a counselor but just let them know your scared and that you want it to be confidential

Answer 5

Dear Rhona,

                  This is not a healthy way to be brought up, what does your mother do when all this is happening?

I am guessing she is scared of your dad too.

Please find a counselor to talk to at school, because you cannot allow this to go on as this is domestic abuse and it is against your rights as a child.

Please find relatives like uncles and aunts to talk to about this.

I don't fully understand why your dad singles you out for this kind of treatment, but it is not right on his part.

The household chores must be divided among all the kids and not just given to you.

Please find a counselor at school, a teacher or a relative to talk to.

If no one else is ready to help, go to the police.

Don't be scared, its your right to do so.

Best of luck!

Answer 6

im 14. and im going through exactly what your going through. right now. no joke. except my father doesn't hit me. but, my parnets are divorced, so, i only have one sister. but i have knwone on my side.

let me tell you what i do:

this is something positive that i tell myself

- 4 more years. and i'm gone.

- just put up with it, i know it's hard, because i know how it feels when my father tells me to do things. and i forget to do it. then he gets mad and yells.

- try not to talk back. i know thats hard too, but lately, i can't seem to not do that. i stand up for myself

- i'm always here. lol, i know i'm a stranger, but im going through the exact same thing. and, i know, i cry so much, like, i want to leave and go so far away, and never come back.

- becasue, my father thinks he's such a big shot, and he knows i won't be able to take care of myself. and he's right. what can i do at my age?

- i have other family who lives in my town, but if i leave, im leaving my sister. and, i can't have her go through the suffering i go through.

- i have such dark bags under my eyes because of the stress.

im here. and, if i find something effective that you can do to calm your father down, i'll tell you.

try using religion on him, i've tryied that on my dad, but he just says "your trying to teach me?! look at yourself first."

i am so sorry.

** DON'T TELL A TEACHER AT SCHOOL! never. my teacher is suspecting things. becasue he see's my red eye, and he wonders. i just tell him it's allergies. [[yea, i know he's not buying that]]

i am so sorry. i know how it feels.

Answer 7

you sound like cinderella...hang in there sweety.

Answer 8

I think you and your mother need to have a heart-to-heart chat. Thirteen is way too young to have all these problems. Talk to her and tell her how you really feel. If you can't talk to her, there are several Teenage Help Lines out there. Good luck and I hoped I helped! I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

Answer 9

You sound like me when I was your age. My dad would kick and throw boots at me make me take cold baths and even molested me.  My mother never could do nothing he would always threat her to. They are divorced now. My suggestion to you sweetie is to talk to your teachers or even your mom and see if they cant help. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

you should talk to the guidance counselor in your school, trust me, itll help and make a difference..

Answer 11

well who ever is cindy p just made two uneducated comments, but anyway back you well i know how you feel and your 13 and shouldnt be feeling this way at all but see it this way your are 13 and you are the oldest so by being the oldest the stress will forever be on you i no it will get hard for you but it will only make you a better person in the end. if i were you i would find things to do to make me happy when things start to get you down like reading, writing, drawing listening to music.  

Answer 12

talk to your mom about it. if she doesnt listen then talk to a family member, or friends mom or dad. I've ran away twice to a different state and got caught both times so i wouldnt suggest running away. If you feel sad talk to a doctor and he might put u on some depressants. But i wouldnt really suggest them they make you feel like a big blob. My dad did the same thing to me i was always the one to do things, it was MY responsibility. But either deal with it and talk to somebody, or tell them your going to move in with another family member.

Answer 13

just do as your told. tell him that you're still his little girl. just older.

And he loves you. he's just stressed cause of your sibs.

and of course your mom loves you. don't run away!!!!!

if you run away and come back, your dad will be dissapointed.

do what you are told. but do it at your paste. write it down. so you don't forget do what you need to do to get things done. okay?

hope i helped and good luck

Answer 14

If your father hits you need to find help. No one deserves to be treated like a slave. The best place to start would be to talk to a counselor at your school.