I cant take this anymore, what should I do?

Question

I've been in the Marine Corps for a little over a year. I walked across the yellow footprints and survived boot camp, then MCT, then my MOS school. Each and every time telling myself that it's going to get easier. So far it hasn't at all, it really just seems to be getting worse and I have no idea how to fix it. It's not like I'm bad at my job or get into any trouble. All the officers and SNCOs in my section are actually really impressed by my work and consider me to be a valuable asset to the unit, they even took me off a TT list because they said I was too important to the mission in the Rear. The only problem with that is, for some reason it seems to me like the Sergeant who is directly in charge of me is jealous or something. He constantly makes rude remarks to me when they're not around about how replaceable I am and that they're wrong about me. I work my *** off, most days until after 1800 so I have to buy my own chow, I get harassed daily and when I try to talk to this Sgt myself he just freaks out and brushes aside what i say because he out ranks me. I'm tired of being treated like this all the time, what can I do to make things better?

Answer 1

Hey Marine...as a Marine Sergeant myself, you need to exercise your right in 'Request Mast'.  Sounds like this Sgt, needs an attitude adjustment.  You non-NCOs are my workhorse...therefore I ensure you junior ranks are well in hand.  That Sergeant obvioulsy didn't learn c**p in Sergeant's Course about being a leader.

I had the same problem when I was a Lance coolie, I had this Sergeant (and I will never forget his face or name), who always ragged on me no matter what!  He would wake me up at 0200 and try to 'motivate' me by his own PT sessions.  He even told everyone else that they should not hang out with me because I would only de-motivate them; because he swore that I was an under-achiever or some c**p!  Well, I moved on, gone to another duty station and I was meritoriously promoted to Cpl (that sucks when you are not ready), but I prevailed and two years later I was a Sergeant.  I am not sure what happened to his pansy *** but I  swore that if I saw him, I would shake his hand for not being a good leader (yes, shake his hand!)  When you do something like that when they knowingly know what they done, it is a shocker to them; humiliation!

I been in for 10-years and I had the best junior Marines underneath me.  I can ask for nothing better!  Even though fratenization is not allowed, I would request to my SNCO on group events that would strengthen our bond!  It is an exhilirating experience when your juniors look up to you!

Answer 2

like rekondog said, flex your Request Mast muscle. Im a lance coolie myself and I have fireteam leaders and plt. sgt. f*ckin with me a few times. One even threatened to NJP me for missing a spot on my window on field day. I have requested mast only once and I was succesfull. It was against my own fireteam leader of all people. He got fired and a more "qualified" NCO was put in his place. If nothing else, RM will let the other person know you mean buisness Devil Dog.  

Answer 3

Don't ask, don't tell.  

Answer 4

First,  now i know that many people in the military have a very sarcastic sense of humour, and you maybe taking things too seriously, and taking everything that he says  to personal.   now once a person gets in the negative place, then they find it hard to get out of it,  

Now, the chow thing is different, if your not being provided an opportunity to eat at the chow hall, then you can put in for seperate rations, and that will get somebodies attention, but if your not being allowed that opportunity on a regular basis, then  it may be worth your time, but you better have your ducks in a row,  You better have kept track of why you did not get to eat,  each and every day,  and not just make a blanket statement,  

Then you can request a change of duty station, You can volunteer to go on a MEU  or to the sand pit,   so  You have those options,  

the other option is to ask for an appointment,  and tell him that you want to talk  officially,  then , when you get your opportunity to talk to him, come right out and ask,   What is the problem,  what can we do to fix this,  

He is human, and yes he maybe a Sgt, and that makes him the so called back bone of the Corps, but your obvioulsy a LCpl  or a PFC, and you have some official ways to talk this out with him,   You just need to show a desire to work it out and a desire to talk it out.  

You will be giving him a chance, you will be going up your chain of command, if he does not give you a private appt,  or does not seem to be willing to talk it out,  then you are authroized to go up the ladder,  and ask for some other solutions,  

good luck,  ;)  

Answer 5

start with the Chaplain.   then dream pleasant dreams of your eventual escape from the Jealous SGT..one of you will PCS sooner or later.  

Answer 6

Become battle hardened in the frozen tundra of Georgia, and greater Europe. Pack a coat, Russian winters are legendary.