I can’t stop worrying about anything and everything?! ~ HELP ~?

Question

I can’t stop worrying about anything and everything. Sometimes I try to find a suitable solution for a problem that doesn’t really exit but it May happen in the future. I keep thinking how can I act? If they think about me like that what can I do? What will I say?! If I find a new job, how can I quit my current job, If I quit, will I find my future there or I will regret it?! But if I refuse the new job my family may be against me and keep blame me.

Like that All the time, If this and If that!! It really annoys me I really want to stop it but I can’t find out how?!

Please help me, I can’t go to a doctor but I trust your answers

I want to live my life without worry about anything, not my future and not my past!! I believe everything can change in seconds and sometimes this help me to stop worry for max 1 hours

Answer 1

I know it is hard not to worry , I sometimes do this too but on a smaller scale.  Taking your example from above re:  your job.  Anything can happen there are pros and cons to everything nothing is perfect, this includes work and relationships. You have no control and you will never know if you made the right decision if you stay or go !  I don't know the specifics, but if your current job is stressing you out big time, then I would say you need a change.  Do and say what comes from your heart, if you are honest and talk to them in a loving manner - you won't worry about what you said, didn't say etc. and then you can be yourself and not  worry what other people think.  If you are constantly trying to say and do what others want you will always have the fear of letting someone down and you will never be yourself.  Contrary to popular belief , people love it when they see someone being themselves and speaking the truth.   When I remember that and know within my heart that I have said or done the right thing there is nothing to worry about.  And because I believe in God, I remember what He said, not to worry about the future and don't think of the past - He knows what is good for us and He will provide us with everything we need - if we believe and have faith in Him.

Answer 2

I can totally relate. I have also had problems with anxiety. My mom is a nurse and asked one of her coworkers who has 4 teenagers about it, and she said one of her daughters had anxiety for 3 years, and eventually got over it.

My advice is to not think about what bothers you so much and instead, focus on things you love doing. There is this saying my mom told me about : " 99% of the things you worry about never happen".

I've had the same problem in the past week, so I can empathize.

I hope this helps! : )

Answer 3

Hi Viola,

Feeling a little anxious in difficult situations is normal but excessive worrying is a waste of time and unhealthy too! Well I fully understand your problem as I was a sufferer myself. Anxiety - What a toxic waste ful thought process. Deep breathing helped me a lot, if you observe carefully you will notice that your breathing becomes shallow and rapid when you are anxious. Willfully take deep breathes blow out all the air from your lungs then fill your lungs again. Remember all the tense situations you faced in the past and worried about the same, you will see that almost all of them turned to be no problems at all. I maintained a list of situations where I was worried about the outcome and found that almost all of them ended positively. Develop a hobby, don't keep yourself ideal. remember that an empty mind is a devils workshop. Get out into open and help people in their distress. Do regular physical exercise this is very good at reducing anxiety.

Believe me all this will definately help you in controlling worrying.

Hope this will be helpful to you.

Answer 4

Well i know how you feel because i am a chronic worrier too.  But the thing is that i can't help it i have anxiety and it is genetic.  So you may have OCD like me which you can't help.  You need to see a doctor because the worrying doesn't just stop on its own you may need medicine for it.  Its such a pain in the butt to worry all the time.  You need to tell yourself to stop as hard as it is.. You can't go on like this.  Try hard to fight it.