I caught my 12 year old daughter looking at p**n on the Internet. What should I do?

Question

I don't really think p**n is wrong for adults, but definatley not her age!! I asked her where she got the idea to look it up and she said some boys were talking about the website at school so she was curious. It was a really hardcore video site. How do I let her know it was wrong (REALLY WRONG) without damaging her sexually as she gets older?

Answer 1

dont worry almost everybody in earth discovered p**n or any adult films pics etc when they are under the age of 18 i mean i discovered adult entertainment when i was like 12 like ur daughter but im always very careful not to get caught by my parents... by the way when u asked her wer she heard the website i think she handled the situation quite calmly and she did not get afraid or embarassed when u caught her means she is very open minded and very mature to handle these kind of situations

Answer 2

She got a bottom ? Spank it and take computer time away.

Answer 3

I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it - talk to her and explain how you feel about it, tell her that it's wrong and inappropriate. You need to put parental controls on your computer - have each child sign in under their own name and keep passwords private.

Answer 4

that was the age i first saw that ..

my cousin [18]was watchin it

n i was shocked just tell her shes too young fopr that right now or just block ur computer

Answer 5

Dont worry i think that is normal for a child to be curious at that age. Girls and boys at that age start to become interested in s*x and what people look like undressed. But the internet it horrible for that stuff, its like kids can accidentally come across that stuff so be careful.

Answer 6

Its just plain ole' Curiosity. Going through puberty makes boys and girls want to know these things. I do think you should tell her that that is bad for her being that age, but all of us been through puberty and we were a little curious.

Answer 7

Don't blame yourself. She was just curious but explain to her how it was wrong and explain to her that she is too young to look at those websites. Just be honest.

Answer 8

Well, you could start by telling her that she's just legally too young to be looking at those things, and that when she's an adult it'll be her decision, but by then she'll have a better understanding of things. Also, you could try the 'p**n is about objectifying women' line of reasoning on her. You could also tell her it's not a realistic or healthy depiction of sexuality, that s*x is OK but not in this context, etc, etc.

Answer 9

She is really just curious and getting caught by her mother was probably a big enough punishment. I woulnd't even mention it to her. It was just a website at school going around. Let her be.

Answer 10

Why isn't her websurfing supervised?  It is YOUR job to monitor what your child does online where were YOU when she was looking up p**n sites?

I have three children am a single mom and NONE of my kids has ever looked at p**n on the internet.  Maybe you should password protect the internet connection and only allow her to access the internet when YOU can sit with her...Again it is YOUR job to supervise her when she is online.  There is NO excuse.

Answer 11

I would first explain to her why she shouldn't visit those sites. I would inform someone at the school, like the principal perhaps as to what is going on, so they can keep an eye on these boys. Maybe the school can contact their parents as well. I would make sure you invest in some sort of internet program that tracks the websites she logs onto and blocks anything you deem inappropriate.

I don't doubt you for a second that you keep track of what your kids do online and that you are trying to protect them, but obviously the job your doing is not enough. She's 12, she should no wrong from right. I see nothing wrong with taking away her computer access for a week or two as well.

Answer 12

ban her from the pc for a month

Answer 13

ok make sure she dosent has s*x but u can talk to her like this s*x is wrong for ur age dont do it but u can wen ur older dont listen to the people at school  ther gon to get n alot of trouble

Answer 14

She shouldn't be online with out you checking on her. Or signing her on. She is 12, thats what kids do.

Answer 15

well just explain that it somthing that only adults should look at not children plz answer my questoin http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 16

if the computer is in her room.....TAKE IT OUT !

Answer 17

you can install NetDog p**n Filter : http://www.netdogsoft.com on the computer, it blocks all p**n quitely and automatically when your daughter's on the computer.

Answer 18

Time to have  the s*x talk..Instead of having a monitoring system on your computer place a block on there with a pass code that can easily be activated or deactivated..

Answer 19

hey we all have to admit we were all a little "curious" when we were little ! come on mom just let her know at her age she should not be looking at that it's not appropriate. but then you have to put yourself in her shoes when you were 12 and curious and touching yourself and looking at naked people or pictures and getting turned out  i mean come on we've all been there! it won't harm her sexuality at all. i don't think. its just part of life. she will be exposed sooner or later

Answer 20

My daughter did the same thing at around that age. She had read the word in a school libary book, and didn't understand it so she looked it up, and then she was curious. She didn't understand the POINT of it- a non sexually active p*****n, what damage can it really do in the long run? I think it just makes her aware that this kind of thing is around, people do do this, and it is wrong to look at it at that age.

Anyway, most p**n is designed for male stimulus, so I don't think it would damage her suxually when she's old enough to be getting into s*x.

Good luck.

Answer 21

spank her butt.

Answer 22

Hmm...I would definitely sit down with her and make sure that she knows that what she did isn't appropriate, but I would make time so that she could ask questions about s*x and bodies, because it sounds like she has some misconceptions. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk. Block the site and monitor her a little more closely. She was more than likely just curious. If she does it again, then punishment is in order. Don't blame yourself. She will eventually come back to the morals and values you raised her with. (that's what I did)