I caught my bf talking to other girls on myspace and he lied, he doesnt get why im mad?

Question

i found messages on my bf's myspace that he tried to delete to other girls calling them babe, and i miss you etc...nothing really bad he never met up with these girls or did anything physical and i definitely know he would never go to the point of cheating but he tried to lie at first and then finally realized he was caught when i had original copies of the emails, all he said was oh sorry. and then he thinks that everything should be ok and i shouldnt be mad bc he said sorry. i cant get him to understand that those emails behind my back made me feel betrayed and i want him to show me that hes truly sorry like he supposedly says. he thinks that just saying sorry fixes the problem. what do i have to do to get him to understand that its a big deal to me? i've cried screamed yelled kicked him out for two nights done everything....i dont know what else to do bc we both dont want to leave each other we have two kids. i need some guy answers....

Answer 1

welcome to the real world...............men look around .........its what they do..........just because he looking dont mean he is gonna do it........but you did do the right thing by nipping it in the bud and confronting him....but you did it in such a way that he probably dont trust you around his things anymore and will probably go 59 times out of his way to cover his tracks from you..........you guys have some serious trust issues.........thats why i have the attitude i do about men....if they gonna cheat they gonna cheat ....it dont mean you are less of a person....it dont mean you are ugly....it dont mean that you did something wrong......men are always on the prowl looking for other stuff to play with until they come home.....................now is that right.....?????????????? thats on that indiviual to be the judge.....its on you if you are going to take that for the rest of your life or do something about it now.

Answer 2

you must be a really annoying girlfriend he can't help it if hes good looking get off his jock its not a big deal. don't be so nosy and controlling.

Answer 3

he's calling other females BABE and saying he misses them? why am i the only one that thinks thats ****** up? Stuff like that leads to cheating.

Answer 4

I don't think you should be over-reacting, sure, a lot of wives fear a BF/HUBBY cheating on them, and to tell you the truth, women over-react... just calm down, take a breath, and look at the problem, ask him, is he really actually trying to cheat on you? Or is it just harmless flirting? If it is real, I suggest you dump him. No man has any excuse to do such a thing to the woman he chooses to have children with. Blast the scumbag, if he apologizes sincerely then just tell him it is concerning to you.

Answer 5

i know how you feel. my husband was looking up teen p**n sights and looking for prostitues in our area and denied it when i confronted him and hit me for even bringing it up. he smashed the laptop and all. who knows the way they think

Answer 6

im so sorry hunny hes a pr*** ditch him

Answer 7

leave him. he'll cheat eventually.  

Answer 8

I don't know .... I'd ditch him if this was such an issue. Because clearly he won't change.  

Answer 9

I've seen countless articles on your situation. Basically, when you say you "caught [your] bf talking to other girls on myspace" what you really mean to say is that you went behind his back and checked up on him. Even when you are in a relationship, that doesn't automatically give you the right to snoop on your partners personal belongings. He still has a right to have privacy. BUT- If he is doing these things, while in a relationship with you, it might mean that he is bored and is trying to have fun with other girls. As to your confrontation with him and needing something more than a sorry, you should try using another method. Have you told him how that makes you feel? How it disrespects the relationship? Be upfront with your feelings.

It also seems to me that you may have insecurity issues, to have "orginal copies of the emails". That's a little far-fetched. Has he ever cheated on you before? Is that why you don't trust him? Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him? The only solution is that YOU need to talk to him. Have a one-on-one. If at this point, he wants nothing to do with the convo, then the relationship is beyond repair...

Answer 10

It all starts with lies and then escalates into other worse stuff if it goes un-checked