I caught my father cheating...?

Question

(I'm 15 btw) For about 3-4 months now my dad has been coming home at weird hours, and sometimes he doesn't come home at all. I guess you can say I /knew/ he was cheating but wasn't sure so I blew it off. Well, for the last few days my mom went to florida, so I've been home alone during the day. Yesterday, my dad calls at 10 PM and says he'll be home in an hour, and he had to take somebody home. At 1 AM I think theres a bat in the house, so I call him. He doesn'tt answer right away and when he finally does, he acts all nervous and acts like he wants to get off. Then, I hear a girl giggling in the background...

that's not all.

I went on my computer and found a window open on his account. I thought it was my account, so I started to type something in...there I see a singles.net URL. I gave him the bennefit of the doubt, and continued. Then I went to search something on google and found these searches...

fat woman p**n (ew)

married and unhappy

and idk something about transexuals...

I'm so furious I could literally go upstairs and cut his throat.

How the **** am I supposed to tell my mother what I found???

I know I shouldn't go on yahoo for this, but it's too early to call anyone. what should I do?

Answer 1

don't confront ur dad. tell ur mom. let her handle it.

Answer 2

Confront you father, and tell him that you are aware of what he is doing, and that you don't want to hurt your mother, but if it continues, you feel obligated to tell her.  Tell your father that he and your mother should try to get some marriage counseling or a divorce if they are that unhappy, rather than cheat on each other.

Answer 3

Let your mom know what you discovered.  Your dad isn't just cheating on your mom, he's cheating on you too.

Answer 4

Oh snaps! What a bad father. Ummm if you don't want to tell your mom then let her find out on her own, but help her find out by giving her hints somehow. Like leave open his singles sites and stuff.

Don't confront your father. He would try and make you not tell your mom. Might get abusive too.

Answer 5

Don't you think that if a 15 yr old noticed that dad is coming home at weird hrs and not coming home at all that your mom has caught on to this too ? Surely your mom has her suspicions but is either in denial or just letting dad get away with it . He is not even trying to be discrete , so more than likely a lot of people know . Maybe if you tell mom that you have noticed that things aren't so peachy that she will open up to you about some things then you may have an oportunity to tell her what you found out .

Answer 6

i really feel sorry for you i wish i could help but i don't know how  

Answer 7

First off - Sorry that you are getting caught in the middle of a terrible situation with your parents. I would say that since your mom is in Florida that your parents are separating and she knows about what he is doing.

As far as the p**n and sites on the computer, you feel the same way a parent feels when they see their children with sites like that.

I think what you need to do is take a deep breath - be calm and dont ask what he is doing, dont judge what he is dong - just focus on how hurt and disappointed you are in what he is doing and that regardless of what is happening between him and your mom they are BOTH still and always will be your parents and you still need each of them to continue to act as your parents.

Hope it all works out

Answer 8

what i would do is sit down on the couch or something by the door and then when he comes in say hey dad can i meet her?? and then if he acts weird like he's nervious just say i know Daddy and then he will prolly admit the whole thing.  

Answer 9

That's horrible. There's absolutely no easy answer in this situation. Confronting your father could backfire. Telling your mother could also go wrong because she might get cross with you. It depends on your relationship with your mother though. If you two are close then I think you should probably discuss your concerns with her. I know it's horrible to tell her something like that and some people might say it's not your business and you shouldn't tell her, but it's probably best. I'm so sorry, this isn't going to be easy for you.

Harriet

Answer 10

Tell your mum sweety. Don't bother confronting your dad. He's a jerk. He doesn't deserve you or your mum.