I caught my husband looking at p**n. What should I do?

Question

I recently caught my husband looking at p**n. He tried to cover it up by asking me what the user-namee and password was for our bank.Bullshith**!! I let him think that I didn't see him and gave him theuser namee and password. Later that night, I brought it up and we had a big argument. I was on the verge of leaving his a**. I almost left him because he said he would never lie to me and never "look" at another girl "sexually. Isn't this wrong? He thinks it's over but I'm still furious about it. He doesn't know that though. What should I do? Talk to him about it or let it go? Please Help!

Answer 1

i know if when i had a husband i would be angered seeing him looking at p**n. but think about when you first met him if he was into those kinds of things. if he was, its only him to continue you especially when he feels like the relationship isn't going great sexually. you guys should talk about it, ask him why he's interested in those things. i would be one to throw a hammer, but at least give him a chance to explain that way he can't throw that back at you later on. i hope things work out. best of luck!

Answer 2

In most cases, I'd say forget about it, since almost all men do anyway. However, I think you should do something about it, since he promised he never would.

Answer 3

I don't have any experience in being married, but I think anyone could tell you that you should never just let something this big go. If something truly bothers you the way this does, talk to him about it.  

Answer 4

My first question is are you meeting his needs sexually.  Ask him.  If you are not giving him what he needs--than for gods sake do it--be a wife and meet his needs.  If this is the issue the reason he is looking at p**n is because you are not a good wife.

If you are meeting his needs than my concern is he may have an addiction and have a narcisstic personality disorder.  My suggestion is: a. get him into counseling and b. get into marriage therapy.

Answer 5

that is gross and wrong e should not be looking at another woman like that. tell him that is not right and you should not leave him. just calmly ask him why he was looking at that? and listen to what he says and see what you can do to help him stop looking at that!!!! i hope i helped  

Answer 6

If your s*x life is good let it be,it may just put lead in his pencil for you and maybe you need to look at it with him if your s*x life is good.

Answer 7

Maybe he should catch you looking at some guy p**n.

All jokes aside, maybe you should find out what it is he is looking for. Maybe you can look together.

That can bring you EVEN closer than ever.

Try wearing different colored, textured wigs too....

Answer 8

Ask yourself seriously, how does this hurt you? Think about this one, because trying to control someone else's behavior if they aren't hurting anyone is very difficult to do. You might just let him look. It's better than going out and finding a mistress or prostitute.

Answer 9

Be glad he is just looking on the computer and no going to other places and getting it, or getting a touchy-feely lap dance or whatever you wanna call it.

Reguardless how "wrong" you may think this is....realize he is a man and they only can think with one "head".

They're on the computer, in front of tv watching it or whatever, but they're home!!

Answer 10

He's a man. Your looking at it from a womans stand point. Just realize he's a man. Once your relize he's a man you will get over it. He could be out cheating on you so look at that is a positive.

Answer 11

my boyfriend looks at p**n all the time. Doesnt bother me. It's not even real there all fake whores and he loves me not them so i dont care. I say let it go. Men need their freedom and it's fake anyways.  If you dont let this go its only going to make your relationship worse.

Answer 12

p**n has NOTHING to do with you

guys are Very visual... and as long as its not something disgusting like child p**n, then its Not that bad...

Answer 13

Let it go. It's just p**n. As long as he's not addicted and you guys are still having s*x, who cares? Tell him not to look at it while you're around.

Answer 14

So what....he was looking at p**n??  It's really not a big deal.  I wouldn't care unless he was on a dating site...LOOKING for other women.

If he's just gawking at p**n sites...so what?  Guys are guys....p**n is just a fantasy for guys.

The only reason I think you would have to be upset, is if he was actually trying to meet other women on sites.

Looking at p**n....just let it go.

Answer 15

girlfriend dont worry about it my husband looks at p**n all the time and he tries 2 cover it up on me one thing i caught him jerky'n off to it and played like i was sleeping i no u love ur husband so just join in and c how u feel lookin at p**n or block ur computer ha  

Answer 16

Do not hide your true feelings about (do not lie).

Remind him it's a sin to look at a woman and lust after her.

Answer 17

Let it go. Males don't mean anything by looking at p**n; we have a ridiculous s*x drive.

It's not that we're looking for a different girl, it's just that we need something to get going and you aren't..uh, shall I say, "available" at the moment.

As for addiction,  anything pleasurable can be addicting, including music. So as long it isn't interfering with anything, it's pretty normal for guys. And some girls.  

Answer 18

If you are really that upset about it, talk to him rationally about it. How and why it bothers you. Try not to fight about it. To be honest though, I would let it go. I mean he is a guy right? Isn't normal for guys to look at p**n? If it were my husband, I wouldn't care unless he started to compare me with those girls in the p**n. I don't know...  

Answer 19

Chill out. Guys look at p**n...period. Its pretty darn normal...Guys think about s*x every 15 minutes...its genetic. Get used to it...He'd be looking at at less if you completely satisfied him...not an easy hing to do with males. Sorry...men are pigs. Take Care

Answer 20

talk to him and say i think 2 make things even i dsere 2 look at p**n on wat ever day its the only way fair and (i am a guy that is straight my girlfriend and i worked it out) good luck!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 21

I wouldn't like it either if he were viewing it all the time and behind my back. It's a turn on if we watch it together sometimes, but it doesn't need to be an anchor in the relationship. Ask him why it's a secret?

Good luck!

Answer 22

It depends on how you feel. Some women don't mind if their husbands look at p**n, on the other hand there are some women who won't tolerate it. I am one of those women who won't tolerate it, before my husband and I got married he knew how I felt about p**n and he knew that if he wanted to be with me, he wouldn't have anything to do with it. If it bothers you a lot you need your husband to know how you feel, if he wants you to stick around he will do the right thing and give up on looking at p**n.  

Answer 23

obviously you aren't giving him what he needs, and your the pissed off one.

it is not wrong for a married man to look at p**n. another woman isn't on his mind babe. straight up ******* is.  

grow up. women don't have rights.  

Answer 24

Perhaps you are exaggerating,

Most married men occasionally look at pornography; this does not mean they sleep with other women.

Psychologically men are wired differently than women, they need to look at beautiful women on TV, at the beach, walking around in the city, and in s**y movies. They need to be continuously "spiced up". Don’t worry; this may actually be beneficial to your marriage s*x life.  

Answer 25

well that's a hard one. i mean you could have mad a mistake but I doubt it. I would talk to him and see if you can find that pic.

Answer 26

um as a male i know, that 99.9 percent of straight males have verry little self control, so my suggestion is to just let it go, but you dont have to listen to me, im just telling you what i know!

Answer 27

its JUST p**n

omg i dont see why people make such a huge deal out of it :S

me and my bf watch p**n (Together or alone) ALL THE TIME

its just a form of entertainment to us.

and no theres NO WAY i wud get mad at something so stupid, unless he refused to have s*x with me n CHOSE p**n OVER ME ...

like its just entertainment. next time, watch it with him and stop creating all this drama over it. seriously.

its not as bad as u think !!

Answer 28

Girl, Girl, Girl. You should be lucky that he is only looking at p**n and not cheating on you. Before you get bent out of shape, you need to address him about the issue and find out why he is looking at p**n. It could be something between the two of you (i.e. lack of s*x, attraction or maybe a fantasy). I have had a en ex that looked at p**n, still does. And now my guy looks at it too, but I know why. If you want more help, contact me. I've been through this as well. But mainly before you go fussing at him, see if you are the reason he is looking at p**n.

Answer 29

oh my god, it is just p**n. have you ever watched it with him? you may be pleasantly surprised. looking at p**n is way different than him cheating on you with another woman. do you honestly think any of those women would give him the time of day! just let it go.

Answer 30

No men look at p**n.  As long as it does not affect your s*x life.  So give him some of his own p**n to look at get a digital camera

Linda

Answer 31

I think your over reacting..and to say that you expect him not to look at another girl sexually is a lot to expect. I find it hard to believe that you havn't seen another man on tv or on the streets and thought he's hot or he's got a hot body or something..EVERYONE does.  

I guess the obvious question is. How is your s*x life ?