I caught my son with marijuana but hes employed 25 hrs. a week and a b student gym freak. How should i punish?

Question

I have no idea how to punish him because he is my third child and the only one that to my knowledge experimented with illegal drugs. I am thinking of sending him to a camp. I was thinking of taking his car away but he pays for it and uses it to got to work,school, and to the gym. He explains to me that he only does it at some parties and just because it makes him laugh alot not because hes trying to find a way to get away from things. He is a well rounded kid and has plans to go to college(junior in high school). What should i do? and if possible please specify grounding terms.

Answer 1

Drug test him yourself,tell him ,since you had to "find"this, that you need to know what else, might help him,ie get to work.Watch A&E `s intervention, a few times.Generally speaking,what a person admits to is a lot less, than what they they do. Ground him from being able to go to parties.Tell  your other childern,ask them to talk to him, then talk to them.Educate yourself & your son (first you).I`ll compare it to seeing a mouse in the house-just one? Just cause you see one, does`nt mean,it doesn`t have a bunch of friends.Pot is not harmless,It can lead to mental illnesses.It can wreck havoc on the brain cells.Good Luck

Answer 2

it sounds like he is doing really good and not like, being a drug-addicted drop out...he'll make the right choices...when it really counts.

i think camp is a little harsh.

im 15, dont do drugs, but have friends that do.

he's a junior,

maybe if he has a cell phone...take it away, ground him and tell him no leaving the house for about a week or so.

i dont know...dont be cruel.

it probably is hard not to since you've never experienced this,

but stay strong and do what you feel is right.

i know it's hard to control a 17 year old, but maybe CPS will come talk to him if u call them.

my grandma did that to my older sister...

it worked until she moved on to inhaling cleaning supplies, but none the less it worked.

hope this helped at all.

can i get the ten points??? lol...its worth a try!!

Answer 3

Do the same thing you would do if it was alcohol or beer.Take it away.

Answer 4

I think you should give him a chance to "repent."  If you read up on the signs of drug use, and you can tell when he comes home from parties if he's been at it again.  

  I would tell him that if he does it again you'll make him quit his job, give up his car, and have no school activities.  That should make him think twice?

Answer 5

man don't even say anything..

every kid tries smoking weed [marijuana] at one point in their life.. i even bet you did!

as long as he's not out shooting heroin he's finee

Answer 6

Yes and no.

Weed is like an illegal form of alcohol and its use is totally blown out of proportions.  It is not even *notably* addicting.

Aside from that, make sure he isn't getting too involved.  The fact that it is illegal makes it all the more alluring.  If he could drink everyday doesn't mean he would.  Make sure he doesn't get out of control so it starts effecting his life.

Don't punish him too harshly.  I think sending him to camp is overboard.  Ground him so that he knows your NOT okay with it.

Answer 7

well i wouldn't necessarily punish him i would ask him more of whats goin on in his life and explain to him your views try imagining your his age again and what you did and possibly tell him the effects of substance abuse also i dont think he wants to be  the next ozzy ozborne? anyway this may or may not work but its just a suggestion i hope it helps and if by chance it doesn't h**l come around

Answer 8

send him to the local morgue. he can see up close and personally what happens when drugs are used.  overdoses, DUI cases where someone is killed,  bad lungs, bad liver, bad brain, etc. call it tough love. one trip...he will see it in a different light...

Answer 9

Did you know that some people smoke marijuana because it subsides underlying problems such as A.D.D.? It helps them to focus.

He sounds like he is on a successful track with an extracurricular activity you don't approve of.  

I would just sit him down and have a heart to heart. Realizing that it could be much worse, don't do anything extreme. I would ask him to flush it. I think that punishing him/grounding him might make him less open to you. You have to keep those lines of communication open, especially at his age.

If you really want him to learn a lesson, you could contact his employer about random drug testing. You have to realize though that this could ruin any chances for him to have a recommendation from them and his credit could be messed up if he makes payments on it. It is the job that gives him the $ to buy the weed.

Answer 10

im 17 and also a mother, so i can see it from both sides,, and i dont believe what he said. is a good one though!! ;)

i think you should talk to him,, maybe he is reall,y stressed. he seems like he has alot in his mind.

tell him that if you keep on catching him with that, that he is getting his car taken away, and that he is still going to have to pay for it. after all he is still under age. i dont know if you are able to drive him around, but that sounds good, and maybe you can see if he is actually going to the gym.

i dont bite that either. he might go,, but probably not as long as you think.----

  thats just what i think.

Answer 11

Honestly, hes probably stressed out. Punishing him too harshly will make it worse. He needs understanding and love. Guide him through this tough time and maybe find some profesional help.

Answer 12

Yes you should punish him.  Marijuana being found in his system, can get him fired from his job,  If he is caught with it in his possession, he can be arrested.  If he is using it at parties,  then he is probably driving home from those parties under the influence.  which is a DUI which means he looses his license, at the very least.  If not his own life due to delayed reaction.  And God forbid he cause the death of another person and go to prison for manslaughter.

Using drugs and Alcohol is not a joke and should be punished severely by the parents.   The courts could care less if he is an A student.   And dead is dead no matter if you get all As or F's.  

He may have plans of going to college,  but he can't go to college dead.   And going to jail for a felony doesn't really look to good on the college app or a job app.  

You do the math.  

And guess what with it being in your house, if for some reason the police found it in your house you would be the one to go to jail, and you could lose your home, and your car.

My brother in law was arrested over  seeds being found in his teenage sons room seeds and a home made pipe made out of a stupid pop bottle.  

He was at work came home and was arrested for possession. How would that look on your record?  

Check your local drug laws  you may be surprised how much of a big deal a little marjuana can really be.