I cheated on bf, now he won't take me back?

Question

My bf left for college a few days ago, and the day he left, my friends dragged me to a party where I got completely wasted and kissed [for only a brief second] a guy I had some history with. I told my bf immediately afterwards b/c I felt so bad, but he insisted on breaking up with me the day after b/c he said he believed me too much when I promised to be faithful.

I know what I did was wrong -- and trust me, I regret it more than anything, and all I want is him back. How do I show him this? We're in a long-distance relationship (TX - NY), but I was thinking of flying over this weekend and talking to him face-to-face.

If anyone has any ideas or anything, it'd all be very much appreciated. Thanks!

Answer 1

Your idea is great. My best friend and her guy fight all the time, he lives in Abeline Texas I think and she's in Phoenix. She cheated on him with a guy he knew and didnt tell him for about a week. He told her he was done with her forever. She found out he was seeing someone else and knew she made such a bad decision. She went out and got a payday loan with my help and flew out to see him. Because they hadnt seen each other she told me the second he saw her he grabbed her and told her he didnt want to ever lose her. They have made up and he moved here now. I think seeing your ex face to face will help you both. Think of ways you can make him realize he can trust you. For example, a guy gets a girl a promise ring. Good luck =)

Answer 2

Most likely, and forgive me if I sound cynical, he wanted out of the relationship anyway and this provided a great excuse.  If I ended up drunk and kissed some guy, however brief, I highly doubt my boyfriend would break up with me.  It might sting, and we'd probably have a lot of talks about it (and my apparent alcoholism, lol), but I don't think we'd break up.

I think your man is taking the lame way out.  He's feeling the pressure of college, of long distance, and since cheating is such an obvious out in an unhappy relationship, he used it to his advantage.

You can talk about it some more, but I don't think he's going to change his mind.

Answer 3

Tell him you just got a pedicure and you want him to sniff your feet. He will gladly do it and will want you back.

Problem solved. No need to thank me.

Answer 4

you made your bed now you got to sleep in it! Its going to be hard for him to trust you now especially long distance!

Answer 5

My advice to you is this, let him go ,I know it hurts but it seems that you both are not ready for a serious relationship yet ,Give yourself some time to think things over .