I cheated on my girlfriend who I love, can things ever be the same?

Question

I cheated on her and I had to tell her immediately afterwards because I couldn't live with myself. I felt horrible and I still feel awful about it. It was a few days ago... There were a few problems in our relationship but there is no excuse for what I had done. We both talked about things we could do to make our relationship better in the future. We have been together for 2 years. Now that I have hurt her, and myself, can things ever be perfect like they were before? I love her and we both want this to work.

Answer 1

there is nothing that you can do but let time heal her. hopfully she will be there when all is said and done. i am sure since you were upfront with her and told her quickly it will all work out

Answer 2

i have been with my now husband for 3 yrs. he has cheated on me for the past 2 yrs. i forgive him each time. i love him with all my heart but i wish he would stop. if she loves u then she will help u through it and she will forgive u. if she leaves u then she was looking for a way out anyway. she will always in the back of her mind think something is going on. let her look through ur phone or hang out when ever she wants. HIDE NOTHING FROM HER it WILL get better promise

Answer 3

It'll take some time for things to be like they were. I think you and her should be see a counselor together.  hope it works out

Answer 4

no, things can't ever be the same. How can she ever trust you again?? that bond is obviously broken. You can't erase what you have done and its not going to go away. Things will definatley change. It's good that you told her, but you have to accept the consequences for your actions. My bf cheated on me recently. He told me about it a week later. I never told him off, I got to scared, but allow me to tell you off for the poor girl you cheated on.

How could you do that to her?? She trusted you!!! You really hurt her!!!! You JERK!!!!!!

sry, no offense, like I said, I hold grudges on guys who cheat from expirience

Answer 5

There is the chance of things being better. Hard work and patients are key.  

Answer 6

That is a hard one, it may take her a very long time to get over it- she may not trust you for a long time, so you will have to deal with that- you hurt her deeply. people make mistakes and you learn from them and let her know how deeply you love her and how stupid you were to do that and you will make it up to her!! Hopefully she will forgive and forget and not throw that in your face every time that you get into an argument. good luck to you

Answer 7

My friend, if they were perfect before there wouldn't have been cheating.  What you do now is move forward to make the best relationship you can.  It is possible that it can truly be even better than before.  

God bless both of you.

Answer 8

i can relate to where you and your girlfriend are at the moment...a similar thing happened in my relationship...and he told me straight away..like you did...

of course i was devastated...i felt completely shattered...and although this was a while ago, i still sometimes have days when i feel sad...

hun i know you're probably hating yourself like crazy right now, but if you really love your girlfriend, you will do everything you can to help her to trust you again...you have to prove to her that she can...

don't get mad at her when she feels upset, it can takes weeks, even months to heal from this...sometimes it doesn't completely go away...but just be there to comfort and reassure her...

it will be hard at these times...because she may go for a while where she's absolutely fine and then have a day when she's sad, and i know that that will be awful for you...but you 2 need each other so much right now...

the damage may have been done, but an even stronger relationship can come out of it :)...

me and my boyfriend are now stronger than we've ever been and we're getting married soon :)

good luck!