I could be pregnant but my man is doing time in jail and this baby is not his what should i do?

Question

i was thinking of abortion, but me and my man tried having a baby plenty of times before and i neva showed up pregnant could it be that it wasn`t meant to be with him? should i keep someone elses baby? PLZ PLZ HELP ME! =[

Answer 1

Call Maury!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or Jerry Springer. Hehe

Answer 2

that is a decision only you can make but were you that bothered about 'your man' when you slept with the other guy? the 'baby' is a human being regardless of who the father is

Answer 3

abortion is something that you can never take back and your baby is dead. can you live with that . also there are alot of risks like infection, excessive bleeding and hemmorage. maybe you should get a ultrasound and see the baby so you can see the heartbeat and the little legs and stuff you have to be informed. there is always adoption call Birthright they can help 1-800-550-4900 God Bless

Answer 4

No matter who the father is, that baby is yours as well. I would never think about killing my child just because I did not know who the father was. You should tell your man in jail that you are pregnant and its not his and you guys work it out however that maybe. Also let the father of the baby know because it is his child and he needs to decide if he wants to be a good dad and be in the child's life or not. You did not create this child on your own and therefore should not be making the decision on your own. All fathers have a say so as well. Be responsible and do the right thing.  

Answer 5

Why would you kill an innocent child over a dumb mistake you made?? I am Pro-Choice but women like you make it hard to defend what I believe. If he's in jail he is not your man he's the STATE's man first off and you should be more worried about what the father of the baby is capable of doing whether than what the dude locked up will think.

Answer 6

       ABORT, immeditely.

       I greatly value life. But  no child deserves to have a mother who      is   in your circumstances, a biological father who is irresponsible and ...100 to 1.... will not financially and emotionally support him, and a  surrogate " father " like your " man"  who is in jail, and most likely will not love and cherish him.

     A child, any child, deserves better than that.

    

Answer 7

This is something only you can answer. If he is in jail that means he was not living right out here to support you nor a baby. Tell the guy that you are pregnant by and the two of you work something out. Then let the guy in jail know what you plan to do.  

Answer 8

Why would you abort a baby simply because it's not a man's who's locked up in jail? You didn't care about your man in jail when you slept with someone else. Apparently you didn't think that you were meant to be before you though that you might be pregnant...or you wouldn't have slept with someone else.

If you want the baby...tell the guy in jail that it's not his (don't wait for two or three years just to break down on the Maury show)..and tell the other guy that it IS his.

Good luck.  

Answer 9

Don't kill your child over a mistake u made..I was with my ex for 7 years and we tried to have a baby and it never happened now I am with my new b/f and I got pregnant within 8 months so I truly believe it wasnt meant to be with my ex..Children are a blessing

Answer 10

Personally I think open adoption is your best bet. If you cannot do this than keep the baby, get rid of the man in jail, and see if the other man is ready to step up and be a good father. If not, than I guess you should start looking for someone who can support you emotionally through this time even if they are only a friend. And ask close friends and family what they think. They can usually tell you what you don't see while in a relationship.

Answer 11

If you have feelings for the other person and you want to keep this baby then leave your man. Or tell him about it and see what he says he wants you to do. It could be that you two just weren't meant to have a child together yet since he was put in jail. You could get pregnant when he gets out, but do you really want your childs father to be in and out of jail all the time? It's hard enough raising a child let alone having to worry about your man in jail all the time. If this other man would be a better father I would seriously consider having this baby. As you said maybe it just wasn't meant to be with your boyfriend now. I don't know how long he has been locked up but since you have already cheated on him the relationship might not work out anyway. You need to decide whether you really want to have this child. Once you figure that out then you make your decision on who to be w. It's not your fault he was incarcerated and sometimes you just aren't meant to have a child by that person. My daughter's father tried getting his ex pregnant for 2yrs and it wouldn't happen. She moved on and got pregnant by someone else and now I have a daughter by him. So maybe it's gods way of getting you out of a situation you should be in for the rest of your life. I hope I was of some help. Good luck!!

Answer 12

Yes you should keep your baby. If your man is in jail it is probably a good sign you shouldn't be with him. Not sure what he is in jail for but you should want more for yourself and your child. Good luck!