I cut and don't know what to do?

Question

im 13 and cut and i regret is so much, only my best friends know. But i dont know if i should tell my parents or famil. I shake when they call me, cause i think they will ask why i cut. Im not emo, well i went through a phase were i was emo, can some one just tell me what to do. Im tired of hiding this, and and lieing to everyone that, i don't cut. And saying that my cat did it

Answer 1

Hi there honey.  You need to tell an adult who can help you get some help with this problem.  It will not go away by itself, but with help you can stop cutting yourself. Can you talk to your parents at all? Is there a counselor at your school you can talk to?  Do you go to church?  Is there some one there who you feel comfortable talking too? Telling an adult for the first time feels very scary I know, but it really will get much easier after the first time you admit to an adult what you have been doing to yourself. Telling the truth is the best plan here.  I wish you much success and good luck with this. You CAN do this and you will feel so much better afterwards.  The guilt you feel about lying about the cutting may be keeping the cycle open and it happening over and over. Big hug to you honey - you can do this.

Answer 2

I've been a cutter since I was 12. I'm 30 now. It took me years to get to where anybody knew and years to get to where it's not a constant everyday thing for me to feel like I have to do.

You have to find someone you trust completely. It's good that you have friends who you feel are trustworthy enough to tell but you need more than just someone to tell. You need someone who will stop you from doing it, who will be there for you when you feel like you need to, and who can talk you out of it. If your friends are cutters as well, they can't help you in that manner.

But don't let someone tell you that it's wrong just because. NO ONE understands why people choose to injure themselves unless they have done it. Find someone who will say "Explain to me why you're doing this and let me help you when you feel you need to." When people around me discovered I was cutting, not one of them offered help. They just told me I was being stupid and dramatic and cutting wasn't going to solve the problem. They never actually offered help. Find someone who will or find it yourself. Go to a school counselor, your minister/preacher, a relative, someone who you know won't look down on you because of how you choose to deal with your pain.

Start writing down your feelings. You could even draw them out. Write a poem, a song, a letter you'll never actually send. Keep them in a journal, in a locked trunk or rip them up and toss them out. That's up to you. But it does help.

You're not alone in this. There are MANY people who cut and a lot of options for stopping. Find your support system, wherever it is. Good luck!

Answer 3

cutting is something people do out of pain..i know as i have done it twice. so if you address the issue that is causing you to feel this way. and try to find ways to cope. then the "need" to harm yourself should start to go away. telling your family would prolly only make them worry and want to take you to a therapist. if you think that would help then by all means try what you think would be best for you! you can get through this, best of luck :)

Answer 4

If you don't want to hide it anymore, then tell them. OR... Make your Lie a Truth. By getting your anger out in some other way. Punch a pillow, scream into your pillow, break a pencil in half, (One that you don't need.), just don't cut yourself and then you won't HAVE to tell your parents or family about it.

Just push it aside. And pretend it never happened.