I dated a guy that was 11 years older than me and he had 2 children. I was scared of getting close to his kids

Question

So I never involved them and made rude comments to him about them. This, among other things, eventually forced us apart. I see now how immature I was and I regret the way I acted SOO much. I love him with all my heart and I would like to get to know his children and become part of his life again and theirs. He recently told me that it was too late to fix things with them. I know he stil loves me and the only thing holding him back from working things out is the fact that his oldest doesn't want to be around me. I know I brought this all on myself but does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can make this better?

Answer 1

You can not make this better.  Sorry, but you ruined it.  He is being a responsible and awesome dad by putting his children first.  He only knows what you have done in the past, regardless of the reason.  He doesn't want to put his children in such a harmful position.

Answer 2

Why should it be made better.

(I can't believe you admitted you said rude things about his kids,TO HIM)

No matter your age at the time, you love the kids before you love the man.

You did not put the kids before you then and your not now!

Your still only talking about how you want and think you deserve another chance.

And so you understand why I'm saying this:The kids are not holding him back! He is their father! He is acting like their father. He is protecting them from you!

You even said "I would like to get to know" them but only to " become part of his life again".

Still self absorbed. Still rude!

Do the guy a favor and stay away!